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A very final thought

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 24, 2018 @ 10:04 pm

It suddenly occurred to me that not everyone reads emails the day I send them.

Maybe a day . . . or even a week later.

So if you haven’t re-opted in to my email list – by midnight tonight then you won’t get any of my Asperger’s emails in the days ahead. As I

am deleting all my old lists of email addresses (in line with new GDPR rules).

BUT . . .

If you do happen to read this message in a day or 2, even a week you can still jump on to the new list at:

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And you’ll start picking up the mails again.

Hope this makes sense (if not just drop me a line back).

Best wishes,

Dave Angel

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[Action Required] otherwise this really is goodbye

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on @ 10:03 am

Yep today’s cut off day.

Sounds painful I know – but really it’s not.

Quite simply from tomorrow I can only send my Daily Asperger’s Tips to people who have opted back on to my email list in the last week by visiting either of these 2 websites:

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And if you’re reading this email it means you haven’t opted back in – so you won’t get any more emails from tomorrow.

All due to the new data protection laws (GDPR) which come into force tomorrow (Friday May 25th).

So it’s goodbye from me and I hope you’ve enjoyed receiving these emails as much as I’ve enjoyed writing them.

I’d like to wish you all the best for your future.

Goodbye . . .

Unless . . .

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Then we can carry on chatting (via email) again tomorrow. And the next day. And the next . . .

Take care,

Dave Angel

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Is this (nearly) goodbye?

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 23, 2018 @ 10:03 am

If you’re reading this message – then tomorrow will be the last time you hear from us.

Unless . . .

You restate your consent to receiving our daily emails at:

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(It’s all part of the new GDPR laws about data protection which come into effect on the 25th May).

OK on to today’s story:

Not shared ye old fashioned fable with you lately. So here’s one I came across recently about a farmer and his horse . . .

One day the farmer’s horse runs away. His neighbor comes over and says “I’m so sorry about your horse.”

And the farmer says “Who Knows What’s Good or Bad?”

The neighbor is confused because this is clearly terrible. The horse is the most valuable thing he owns.

But the horse comes back the next day and he brings with him 12 feral horses. The neighbor comes back again “Congratulations on your great fortune!”

And the farmer replies again: “Who Knows What’s Good or Bad?”

And the next day the farmer’s son is taming one of the wild horses and he’s thrown and breaks his leg. The neighbor comes back over, “I’m so sorry about your son.”

The farmer repeats: “Who Knows What’s Good or Bad?”

Sure enough, the next day the army comes through their village and is conscripting able-bodied young men to go and fight in war, but the son is spared because of his broken leg.

The point of this?

All about how we view things.

Bad things do happen. Course they do.

But are they really 100% bad?

Could they really be an opportunity we don’t know about?

Let’s relate it to parenting . . .

Maybe your son is kicked out of a school.

Disaster. How truly awful. End of the world.

But what if they end up at a new school, which is much better and they thrive there.

Maybe your daughter falls out with her friend, and suddenly becomes isolated.

Really sad. Upsetting for you and her. Future looks bleak.

But what if she eventually meets a new friend. One who is kind and supportive and there for her when she needs her?

What if your teen leaves school having failed all his exams.

You fear they’ll be stuck at home and never get a job.

But what if they find an opportunity 6 months later to do a job they love and enjoy.

These are **EXAMPLES** and may not fit your situation excatly.

But I hope they help to push the fact that ‘bad’ things which happen – may not always turn out to be bad in the long run.

Sometimes it’s about learning what didn’t work, and waiting for a better opportunity.

And talking of opportunity . . .

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To clever farmers

Dave Angel

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The clock’s a tickin’

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 22, 2018 @ 10:04 am

Tick tock . . . Tick tock . . . Tick tock . . .

Time’s slipping away if you want to continue receiving The Daily Asperger’s Tips via email.

From Friday this week, onwards, you will not get any more of these emails unless you go to one of the following webpages

and restate your agreement to receive them.

(It’s all part of the new GDPR laws about data protection which come into effect on the 25th May).

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If you don’t then wish to continue please use the ‘unsubscribe’ button at the bottom of this message and you won’t hear from us again.

And today’s tip:

I once heard an interview with a Speech pathologist from Florida called Stephanie Sanders.

She was talking about communication problems for kids with Asperger’s.

How they will often talk too much on a topic.

Or be way too blunt and honest in their approach.

Both causing negative reactions from others.

Stephanie has an approach where she teaches kids about filters.

First she talks about water filters and air filters, and what they do (i.e. purify water and air).

Really concrete examples to get them thinking.

Then talks about brain filters.

And how they are there to help you work out what to say and do.

(In a way they ‘purify’ how you communicate, so you do it better).

It’s a great way to start the discussion with your child about appropriate and inappropriate communication. Maybe a handy hint for you to use . . .

And talkin’ of communication.

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To communication,

Dave Angel

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5 signs of parental stress

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 21, 2018 @ 10:01 am

*** Just 4 days left ***

If you are reading this email – then you are still on my OLD Daily Asperger’s Tips List.

That means you will no longer receive them after Thursday 24th May.

Because of the new GDPR regulations on data processing – you need to optin at either:

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OK on to today’s tip:

No doubt – being the parent of a child with ASD is a hugely stressful life.

And I’m sure you agree.

There’s many reasons why. Here’s 5:

1. Poor sleep – Whether it’s your child struggling at night, so keeping you up. Or you frequently tossing and turning with

worry. Or both . . . Sleep deprivation is likely an issue for you.

2. Isolation – Being the parent of a child who probably doesn’t get many party invites or play dates. Or later in life when your friends are “bragging”

of their child going off to college or some great career. And your adult is quite possibly a way behind this.

3. Conflict – There can be so much conflict in your daily life. With your child when routines or situations don’t go well – and you have to pick up the pieces.

With teachers, other family members or people in the community who just don’t understand ASD.

4. Lack of free time – You just don’t get a break. From morning ‘till night there’s things to be done. Breakfast routines. School runs. Phone calls during the school day. School

pick up. Evening meal. 101 problem solving challenges along the way. No. TIME. FOR . YOU.

5. Exhaustion – Goes hand in hand with sleep deprivation. Running around to medical appointments, therapy sessions, activities etc. Plus the mental exhaustion that all the stuff

I’ve just mentioned brings you.

And that’s just 5 stress factors off the top of my scalp!

Probably dozens more. No wonder you feel exhausted from time to time (if not more frequently) – only natural.

And if these daily tips are help at all, in your stressful life, then don’t forget to re-opt in at:

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To survival,

Dave Angel

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For that one day, housework can wait and the world will not end

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 20, 2018 @ 10:01 am

A day in the life of a mom.

That was the title of a message I sent last week. All about a mom and her struggles with her child who has executive function issues,

through the different parts of the day.

I had a great email back from one mom, Josie, that I wanted to share today. Heer’s what she sayeth:

“That is so true! I’ve found that keeping my son to a consistent schedule that is written and posted on the wall,

divided by time blocks and allows for his play time helps reduce arguments.

It makes both of us more productive and helps him with executive functioning.

(It also caters to his concrete thinking: 4:30- 5:30 is homework hour…so nothing else is allowed.)

Now the major task is encouraging him to follow the schedule without my prompting!

I’ve also started showing him how my own schedule interlocks with his. This helps him understand why I have to decline playing

2hrs on the game system with him when it is time to cook dinner!

We have a revised schedule that is more relaxed over the weekends. If there is no daily plan, he would try to play online all day!

On the occasional rainy/ sick day we have “Pajama day” eat all our meals on the couch with TV AND JUST BE LAZY! This is a

required mental health day for both of us. Lol. (Usually once a month) For that one day, housework can wait and the world will not end.“

Such a great view.

Schedules are important.

Independently sticking to them is the next step for many children. It helps for future life away from home or work or college.

Also showing your child how your schedule works is helpful too (in whatever form it takes – may not be formally written. But we all have

times we get up, do work, eat, go to bed etc. that are normally pretty consistent).

Chilled out weekends are a great thing – as the whole Monday –Friday hustle is exhausting for all. And the odd “Mental health day” is something I see a lot of

parents advocate for their child (and themselves).

So thanks to Josie – loved that message. And I hope you enjoyed reading it too.

And finally a Quick GDPR Update – If you are reading this message now – then after May 25th you will no longer receive my Daily Asperger’s Emails unless you opt in again and restate your permission.

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To sharing tips,

Dave Angel

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Here’s my horn like opinion on why one woman sold her grandma for $2000

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 19, 2018 @ 10:02 am

So today’s a bit silly.

All this serious GDPR . . . opt in . . . data protection stuff is vital. But also a tad tedious methinks!

So today a mood lightener.

Yesterday my phone did that funny auto correct spelling thing. I tried to write

In my humble opinion . . .

But phone decided it should be

In my horn like opinion . . .

Which did make me chuckle, as it gave me a vision of wearing some Viking horned hat whilst texting!

Anyway made me wonder about other funny auto corrects. And of course, with a little research, the internet is full of them. Here’s 4 funny real life ones I picked out, for your viewing pleasure:

1. “He will call don’t worry”

“I hate just sitting by the phone waiting for it to ripen”

“Ha Ha ripen! Are you on a banana phone?”

2. “Are you coming to my new year party?”

“Of course”

“Cool ‘cos I’m going to kill you at midnight”

“On 2nd thoughts . . .”

“Lol. I mean’ t kiss you”

3. “You won’t believe the day I had, I just devoured a baby in a cab”

“You WHAT!!”

“Oh my . . . Delivered. This phone I swear”

4. “How are you?”

“OK I guess”

“What’s wrong”

“I just sold my grandma for $2000”

“Wow you just sold your grandma?!”

“Ha ha. Wow. My grand am. My car!”

Hope this brought some light relief to your weekend.

And a quick, gentle reminder too . . . if you’re reading this email you haven’t yet opted back in. Which means on May 25th you won’t get

any more of these, occasionally off the wall, Daily Asperger’s Tips emails I send out each day.

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To lols,

Dave Angel

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When gaming becomes a problem. Here’s 7 signs to look for . . .

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 18, 2018 @ 2:07 pm

“Gaming disorder” is one of those very modern things.

The idea that addiction to gaming could actually come under some form of mental health label.

In fact the ‘bible’ of psychiatrists (the DSM 5) talks about gaming disorder. And whilst it isn’t a specific disorder, yet, they flag it as an area needing more research.

7 of the keys issues to look for are:

1. A desire to play video games to the exclusion of doing all other activities

2. Withdrawal from family members and peers

3. Becoming extremely distraught and upset when not allowed to play

4. Loss of sleep and being up in the middle of the night playing games

5. Deteriorating grades at school

6. Loss of interest in eating and previously-favorite activities

7. Irritability, anxiety, anger, when being kept from the game

Recognize some of these things in your child?

I’d be pretty surprised if not.

Because I think too much gaming and online time is an issue affecting many kids and teens around the world today.

But it seems even more prevalent, and intense, in the population of young people with ASD.

Well I just finished reading a great article from a young woman with ASD on this subject. She talks of how she would lock herself

into the bathroom to stop her parents cutting her online time. She really needed it. SO MUCH. Which is quite a graphic example of the complex

relationship between gaming and ASD. A topic I will talk some more about in future emails.

And talking of future emails . . .If you’re reading this message – then you won’t get any more of my emails after May 25th . . . UNLESS . . .

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To understanding,

Dave Angel

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If you get this email – your Daily Asperger’s Tips will end on May 25th (unless you take action)

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on @ 10:06 am

Yesterday I sent an email explaining some important changes.

In a nut shell:

You need to re-opt in, and state your permission, to continue receiving my Daily Asperger’s Tips emails.

(Because of a new law called General Data Protection Regulation – GDPR – which starts May 25th).

Over 400 people have re-opted in so far which is great.

But if you’re reading this email now it means you haven’t yet. And if you don’t take this action before May 25th, I can no longer send you daily email tips.

And that’s fine there’s still time.

Or you may not want to carry on anyway. If so it would be really helpful, to both of us, if you hit the ‘unsubscribe’ link at the bottom of this email

– saves me sending you more of these messages over the next week. And saves you getting them.

Now a few people have run into problems with the opt in page, for all kinds of technical reasons.

So I’ve put up a second opt in web page too!

So if you want to carry on receiving the daily tips you can opt-in to carry on at either of the following webpages:

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But after this, if you still have problems opting in – then please email me back with exact details of the problem (what web page you were on . . . what browser you use . . .

what device you were on . . . any screenshots . . .and I’ll get my tech support on it. But if you’re confused by all this tech stuff. Don’t worry – just email me back to say it

doesn’t work! Also ‘like’ my Facebook tips page at: clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Kdjaj&m=3XLWSAae1fJlRMX&b=mq3gsm..qcBMvil8wML76g – as I will add updates there too).

And to make sure you get a daily dose of my normal tips. I’m sending a 2nd email today on gaming addiction and ASD!

To staying the course.

Dave Angel

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Did you have problems with the link to opt in today? [GDPR Update]

Filed under:Other — posted by anthony on May 17, 2018 @ 9:27 pm

So today I sent out an email with an important update.

Basically you need to re-opt in to continue receiving my Daily Asperger’s Tips emails.

(Because of a new law called General Data Protection Regulation – GDPR – which starts May 25th).

Over 300 people have re-opted in so far which is great.

But I know for some people the link and website, to re-opt in, wouldn’t work.

This could be because:

a. The web page has been busy with people re-opting in today, and couldn’t cope at times.

b. Your local internet or device was a bit patchy today, at the time you tried to sign up.

c. There may be some technical issue with which browser you use (e.g. Internet Explorer, Mozilla Firefox, Safari or whatever) or device (e.g. computer, lap top, tablet, or phone).

d. Aliens landed in your town and sucked away the world wide web (least likely option!)

Anyway I appreciate your patience and persistence in this. We will get there and I’ll ensure if you want to stay with the daily tips, you won’t get shut off on May 25th.

I’m here for you.

Here’s what I suggest you do:

1. Try again to re-opt in at: clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Kdjaj&m=3ZCWVOO4LfJlRMX&b=glYgPNSNEZCwVgAHNCn.Jw

If this doesn’t work then . . .

2. Try to re-opt in at: clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Kdjaj&m=3ZCWVOO4LfJlRMX&b=z7uVZlP8eSu_p3aJZax_2g

(This is a 2nd page I’ve put up to hopefully solve the problem).

If this doesn’t work then . . .

3. Clear your browser’s cache. It’s a technical thing (but dead easy to do) – this page explains it and how to do it: clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Kdjaj&m=3ZCWVOO4LfJlRMX&b=IDhhgpV4dcg7T22DMd5lBg

Then repeat steps 1 and 2.

If this doesn’t work . . .

4. Email me back.

Give me as much information as you can (what web page you were on . . . what browser you use . . . what device you were on . . .

and any screenshots you can send).

I can then use the tech support team I have in place to trouble shoot these issues.

5. Like my fr-ee daily tips page clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=Kdjaj&m=3ZCWVOO4LfJlRMX&b=5wAbFSBTNEV.LR7JDw9lxg as you can stay in touch that way too, whilst I get this resolved.

Thanks so much for your patience and support it means a lot, we’ll get there.

Yours frustrated in tech,

Dave Angel

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