Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:41:37 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-13033 Kathy Perilloux Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:11:03 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-13033 What comes to my mind to try is this (ya' gotta' think outside the box, with details): Get some mirrors (like the ones in the camping dept. at Wal-mart, good-n-cheap-n-just right)for your son and possibly others in the family. Improve every one's table manners and eating habits rather than always singling out the 'Aspie'. Truly, we all have room for improvement. Have mirrors at the table to observe yourselves while you eat and demonstate your progress. I know this may sound hooky to some but doing creative stuff like this has helped my son accept help and therefore be proud to own it as his. Blessings! What comes to my mind to try is this (ya’ gotta’ think outside the box, with details):
Get some mirrors (like the ones in the camping dept. at Wal-mart, good-n-cheap-n-just right)for your son and possibly others in the family. Improve every one’s table manners and eating habits rather than always singling out the ‘Aspie’. Truly, we all have room for improvement. Have mirrors at the table to observe yourselves while you eat and demonstate your progress. I know this may sound hooky to some but doing creative stuff like this has helped my son accept help and therefore be proud to own it as his. Blessings!

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-13005 Sandy Glenn Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:14:11 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-13005 I think the term 'taking back' is a miss use of words. It should be labeled 'paying a fine'. You're not taking back anything, he (she) is paying a fine for breaking the rules just as you would have to do for say speeding. I think the term ‘taking back’ is a miss use of words. It should be labeled ‘paying a fine’. You’re not taking back anything, he (she) is paying a fine for breaking the rules just as you would have to do for say speeding.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4176 Hilary Wed, 03 Sep 2008 16:07:07 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4176 This is my 3rd child with Aspergers and the most severe. When he chews with his mouth open this is not very nice to watch or listen to. So if it gets too much I just look at him and if he chews with his mouth shut for a little while then fine I know he has tried. Yes I know it is very annoying for others but I don't ask for perfection anymore just a compromise from my kids. If any one objects we apologise and explain their diagnosis and that he can't eat any other way. My 17 yr old eats like it is his 'last meal' and I can assure you its not because he still eats between meals as well. This is my 3rd child with Aspergers and the most severe. When he chews with his mouth open this is not very nice to watch or listen to. So if it gets too much I just look at him and if he chews with his mouth shut for a little while then fine I know he has tried.
Yes I know it is very annoying for others but I don’t ask for perfection anymore just a compromise from my kids. If any one objects we apologise and explain their diagnosis and that he can’t eat any other way.
My 17 yr old eats like it is his ‘last meal’ and I can assure you its not because he still eats between meals as well.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4132 Nena Swan Wed, 27 Aug 2008 15:48:51 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4132 I agree with Elizabeth. It may very well be a sinus problem other than just bad manners. My 13 year old son with Asperges chews with his mouth open, and I used to get so frustrated when he would continue to do it, even after I explained it wasn't proper table manners. He finaly said, "Mom, I can't breath if I don't chew with my mouth open". It never occured to me that it could be some thing physical, I just thought it was defiant behavior! So I took him to our family doctor who put him on percription allergy medication and over the counter decongestant. What a difference it makes! Something for you to consider anyway. Good luck. I agree with Elizabeth. It may very well be a sinus problem other than just bad manners. My 13 year old son with Asperges chews with his mouth open, and I used to get so frustrated when he would continue to do it, even after I explained it wasn’t proper table manners. He finaly said, “Mom, I can’t breath if I don’t chew with my mouth open”. It never occured to me that it could be some thing physical, I just thought it was defiant behavior! So I took him to our family doctor who put him on percription allergy medication and over the counter decongestant. What a difference it makes! Something for you to consider anyway. Good luck.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4117 Nickie Black Tue, 26 Aug 2008 04:31:07 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4117 Does anyone already have a chart with sugestions and rewards made up that I could get some ideas from I have a 7 year old grendson we are raising and I need all the sugestions of charts I can get.Thank You very much. Does anyone already have a chart with sugestions and rewards made up that I could get some ideas from I have a 7 year old grendson we are raising and I need all the sugestions of charts I can get.Thank You very much.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4113 Jacqui Lowe Mon, 25 Aug 2008 18:28:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4113 We have problems with our 8 year old at meal times - but for different reasons. He is very a picky eater. Short of force feeding him I don't know what to do - I am just grateful when I see him eat something. Tried positive re-inforcement and he loves it at first but gets bored with it after a while. He is so very well behaved generally. The only problem we have is when he is faced with social interaction with other kids his own age. He bahaves inappropriately. We have problems with our 8 year old at meal times – but for different reasons. He is very a picky eater. Short of force feeding him I don’t know what to do – I am just grateful when I see him eat something.

Tried positive re-inforcement and he loves it at first but gets bored with it after a while. He is so very well behaved generally. The only problem we have is when he is faced with social interaction with other kids his own age. He bahaves inappropriately.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4104 Lillian Carde Sun, 24 Aug 2008 22:53:01 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4104 Thanks for all those ideas. We have a battle at mealtimes eating with the mouth open. It doesn't rattle me so much but my husband is always going on about manners. Sometimes I feel the telling off is harder to handle than just getting on with eating. There have been some good ideas spoken and I thank you. Thanks for all those ideas. We have a battle at mealtimes eating with the mouth open. It doesn’t rattle me so much but my husband is always going on about manners. Sometimes I feel the telling off is harder to handle than just getting on with eating. There have been some good ideas spoken and I thank you.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4101 Jayson Lee Sat, 23 Aug 2008 16:31:10 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4101 Keep in mind that alot of "us" dont get the fact that chewing with your mouth open is "bad manners" (god who makes this crap up?) Like the first comment, I have to BREATHE! It's like punishing a bedwetter for peeing the bed when they are asleep and dont even know they are doing it! Dont punish a kid for not living up to "society's standards." So the kid cant chew with his mouth closed, Im 30 and still dont understand that rule, its stupid. If that is the worst thing about the kid your doing really good. Let people be themselves. Keep in mind that alot of “us” dont get the fact that chewing with your mouth open is “bad manners” (god who makes this crap up?) Like the first comment, I have to BREATHE! It’s like punishing a bedwetter for peeing the bed when they are asleep and dont even know they are doing it! Dont punish a kid for not living up to “society’s standards.” So the kid cant chew with his mouth closed, Im 30 and still dont understand that rule, its stupid. If that is the worst thing about the kid your doing really good. Let people be themselves.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4098 Claudia Worth Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:55:43 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4098 Wow thanks for the many suggestions. We are just learning this syndrome and as grands raising a asperger child are methods of raising kids are almost medieval. These tips are great helps. Thanks. Wow thanks for the many suggestions. We are just learning this syndrome and as grands raising a asperger child are methods of raising kids are almost medieval. These tips are great helps. Thanks.

]]> Aspergers and socially acceptable behavior http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-4097 kim Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:59:55 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-socially-acceptable-behavior/#comment-4097 I agree with Ronda on the thought of not taking back tokens for bad behavior. I would think that in the concrete thinking that my son would wonder why I could take back something that he earned? It would be his and not mine to take back. He is very concrete as many Aspergers are. I mean.....can the college take back my degree after i have earned it? Or my high school diploma? I know there are things that can be taken back, but in their world I tend to lean towards not taking back things they have EARNED. Kim I agree with Ronda on the thought of not taking back tokens for bad behavior. I would think that in the concrete thinking that my son would wonder why I could take back something that he earned? It would be his and not mine to take back. He is very concrete as many Aspergers are. I mean…..can the college take back my degree after i have earned it? Or my high school diploma? I know there are things that can be taken back, but in their world I tend to lean towards not taking back things they have EARNED.
Kim

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