Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:41:37 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-10914 Karen Weaver Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:03:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-10914 In response to Vida Conway the tantrums are not going to stop because you give him consequences. They are a part of having Aspergers that may only get better with medication and behavioral therapy. You have to work on the causes of the tantrums and attempting to prevent them. With my son, sometimes it's just the manner in which he is approached by teachers or it may be overstimulation from noise or other children. If punishing him doesn't work...why do it? It only frustrates them more. Give him the tools to make things better the next time. In response to Vida Conway the tantrums are not going to stop because you give him consequences. They are a part of having Aspergers that may only get better with medication and behavioral therapy. You have to work on the causes of the tantrums and attempting to prevent them. With my son, sometimes it’s just the manner in which he is approached by teachers or it may be overstimulation from noise or other children. If punishing him doesn’t work…why do it? It only frustrates them more. Give him the tools to make things better the next time.

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-8001 Vida Conway Fri, 10 Apr 2009 06:17:54 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-8001 My grandson is 12 and was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome when he was 11. He still has tantrums at school and at home, especially when he is made to do something he doesn't want to. We were told that his Tantrum are a learned behavior and that he should be punished for these tantrums. His parents have never given into his tantrums and he does have consequences when he has these tantrums at school and at home, but he still is having these tantrums. What is the best way with dealing with his tantrums so he will stop...they are disrupting his class and his family. He is immature for his age. How can we build his maturity level to that of his peers? Any information will be greatly appreciated. My grandson is 12 and was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome when he was 11. He still has tantrums at school and at home, especially when he is made to do something he doesn’t want to. We were told that his Tantrum are a learned behavior and that he should be punished for these tantrums. His parents have never given into his tantrums and he does have consequences when he has these tantrums at school and at home, but he still is having these tantrums. What is the best way with dealing with his tantrums so he will stop…they are disrupting his class and his family. He is immature for his age. How can we build his maturity level to that of his peers?
Any information will be greatly appreciated.

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-1617 Renee Cain Sun, 30 Mar 2008 14:36:23 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-1617 My son is terribly persistent! I felt that I could not escape him for 2 seconds - he follows me around the house and I never get a moment to myself - even in the bathroom, he stands outside the door talking. Recently, a therapist told me that one way to handle his tantrums is to take away his "time" with mom. When he calms down, he can have my time; or if he behaves he earns some of my time. If I lock myself in my room, he just bangs on the door or picks the lock, or throws things at the door and it makes him more upset. Any advice? My son is terribly persistent! I felt that I could not escape him for 2 seconds – he follows me around the house and I never get a moment to myself – even in the bathroom, he stands outside the door talking. Recently, a therapist told me that one way to handle his tantrums is to take away his “time” with mom. When he calms down, he can have my time; or if he behaves he earns some of my time. If I lock myself in my room, he just bangs on the door or picks the lock, or throws things at the door and it makes him more upset. Any advice?

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-895 admin Tue, 26 Feb 2008 21:38:10 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-895 Hi Dave! I'd lost the link addressing Autistic parental stress, so please add to my commentary response. It's scientifically factual from a Columbia University study released May 2004 that St. Johns Wort is proven to diminish the effectiveness of oral contraceptives!! Parents of Autistic Spectrum children SHOULD ALL be aware, as not many people nor practitioners know of these findings. It is verifiable per that University as released in one of the Medical Journals and Bulletins I receive. PLEASE share this information with all! Patricia Banks, BMsc PurePractitioner@aol.com Hi Dave!
I’d lost the link addressing Autistic parental stress,
so please add to my commentary response. It’s scientifically
factual from a Columbia University study released May 2004
that St. Johns Wort is proven to diminish the effectiveness of
oral contraceptives!! Parents of Autistic Spectrum children
SHOULD ALL be aware, as not many people nor practitioners
know of these findings. It is verifiable per that University as
released in one of the Medical Journals and Bulletins I receive.
PLEASE share this information with all! Patricia Banks, BMsc

PurePractitioner@aol.com

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-885 Joan Frawley Tue, 26 Feb 2008 03:22:46 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-885 Hi, I'm new to this site but all the postings sound so familiar. My son is already 16 years old and it has been a long, hard road that somehow doesn't look like it has an end. While he makes progress every year, (he's now a sophomore in a mainstream highschool), the amount of input from me remains so high. I wonder will he ever be able to navigate the world alone? And now that he is nearing six feet and I'm nearing 60, I just don't want to cajole or threaten him into doing the homework etc. anymore. I've always thought that if I could just get him through a regular high school with perhaps a postgraduate year in some special boarding enviornment where they teach life skills, that maybe he'd wake up someday and have the skills to hold a job or whatever. But the back talk and oppositional behavior is really taking its toll. Hi, I’m new to this site but all the postings sound so familiar. My son is already 16 years old and it has been a long, hard road that somehow doesn’t look like it has an end. While he makes progress every year, (he’s now a sophomore in a mainstream highschool), the amount of input from me remains so high. I wonder will he ever be able to navigate the world alone? And now that he is nearing six feet and I’m nearing 60, I just don’t want to cajole or threaten him into doing the homework etc. anymore. I’ve always thought that if I could just get him through a regular high school with perhaps a postgraduate year in some special boarding enviornment where they teach life skills, that maybe he’d wake up someday and have the skills to hold a job or whatever. But the back talk and oppositional behavior is really taking its toll.

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-883 Kim Tue, 26 Feb 2008 02:58:16 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-883 Hi Kathy, I know what you mean. Sometimes my son, when he gets really down about a situation or has a tantrum, he bemoans that he is different and he can't do anything, etc. It gets better with time, patience, understanding, and practive. Find ways to distract him or that appeal to him. Exercise really helps with my Aspie. Lots of walking, climbing trees, running, chasing ducks, etc. lol Find a good therapist for you both and find a support system in a local advocacy group, the school, and/or your family/friends. Good luck! It gets easier, sometimes.:-) Hi Kathy, I know what you mean. Sometimes my son, when he gets really down about a situation or has a tantrum, he bemoans that he is different and he can’t do anything, etc. It gets better with time, patience, understanding, and practive. Find ways to distract him or that appeal to him. Exercise really helps with my Aspie. Lots of walking, climbing trees, running, chasing ducks, etc. lol Find a good therapist for you both and find a support system in a local advocacy group, the school, and/or your family/friends. Good luck! It gets easier, sometimes.:-)

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-848 H.Rist Sun, 24 Feb 2008 16:32:29 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-848 My son is 8 1/2 y/o and was diagnosed with AS in Dec.'07. He is oblivious to the fact that he is different. He doesn't see that. It's usually the other kids that aren't nice to him or are mean. I need help in dealing with how to explain to him that he has AS.Some tell me not to say anything until he comes to us and asks, others say we should sit him down and tell him. Any advice? My son is 8 1/2 y/o and was diagnosed with AS in Dec.’07. He is oblivious to the fact that he is different. He doesn’t see that. It’s usually the other kids that aren’t nice to him or are mean. I need help in dealing with how to explain to him that he has AS.Some tell me not to say anything until he comes to us and asks, others say we should sit him down and tell him.
Any advice?

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-841 Sandy Sun, 24 Feb 2008 03:32:33 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-841 Paula, my husband was in denial for about a year. Finally, I made him take our son to get evaluated by the school. When our son could not even complete 5 out of 6 tests they gave him because of his ranting and raving, my husband finally got the picture. Our behavioral pediatrician who diagnosed him said that my husband needed to get his head out of the sand "today" so we could start therapy. My son was 4 at the time. Thank God she was so forceful, made a real impression on my husband and he has been great ever since. Good luck. Paula, my husband was in denial for about a year. Finally, I made him take our son to get evaluated by the school. When our son could not even complete 5 out of 6 tests they gave him because of his ranting and raving, my husband finally got the picture. Our behavioral pediatrician who diagnosed him said that my husband needed to get his head out of the sand “today” so we could start therapy. My son was 4 at the time. Thank God she was so forceful, made a real impression on my husband and he has been great ever since. Good luck.

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-840 Sandy Sun, 24 Feb 2008 03:29:19 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-840 K. Johnson. You need to get some help. There are advocacy groups EVERYWHERE. You need to talk to your pediatrician so they can set you up with someone. If he hates you and wants to run away, he needs to get some therapy and/or medication for depression. How old is he? Has he had therapy of any kind? There are many serveces out there available to him, you just need to find them. Don't be afraid to ask, you are not alone in this. Take care. K. Johnson. You need to get some help. There are advocacy groups EVERYWHERE. You need to talk to your pediatrician so they can set you up with someone. If he hates you and wants to run away, he needs to get some therapy and/or medication for depression. How old is he? Has he had therapy of any kind? There are many serveces out there available to him, you just need to find them. Don’t be afraid to ask, you are not alone in this. Take care.

]]> Aspergers and Stress http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/aspergers-and-stress/comment-page-1#comment-817 lisa powell Fri, 22 Feb 2008 22:44:19 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/02/19/aspergers-and-stress/#comment-817 The advice is spot on EXCEPT that it does not consider a lot of typical situations where it is a single mother, working full-time, with other children to manage. Take time-out? Who is going to look after the children? Some of us can't even go to the toilet alone. In my experience (and it is only MY experience), there are autistic traits in all members of the family, to varying degrees. Hence, the lack of understanding and support. The advice is spot on EXCEPT that it does not consider a lot of typical situations where it is a single mother, working full-time, with other children to manage. Take time-out? Who is going to look after the children? Some of us can’t even go to the toilet alone. In my experience (and it is only MY experience), there are autistic traits in all members of the family, to varying degrees. Hence, the lack of understanding and support.

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