Hi there and welcome to this week’s Aspergers article.
Just before that I want to say thanks to everyone who visited the relaunch of the Aspergers website last week at www.parentingaspergers.com/relaunch.html
- and if you’ve not been there yet the web page is still up if you want to take a look.
Anyway here’s this week’s article …
Sometimes my son with Aspergers reminds me of an adult trapped in his little body – mostly when he says to me “mom, I don’t understand what you mean when you say… (whatever I said) … can you please tell me again?” Wow. Unfortunately, I have just today resorted to trying a medication to help control his aggressive behavior because he’s punching his own face and slapping his legs and kicks at adults; leaving bruises on day care teachers. He just doesn’t understand sometimes that you cannot have a banana if there aren’t any. That’s one example of a reason for a blow up. Do you have any advice on how to bring him out of a flying rage?
Most of us have moments where we have to stop and regroup and try to get our behavior in check. Even the most even-tempered of us can blow up over something seemingly trivial. For children with Asperger’s Syndrome, understanding their own emotions and being able to control them is more than an occasional challenge. It is an everyday struggle.
Judy Endow, MSW, has written a book entitled “Outsmarting Explosive Behavior – A Visual System of Support and Intervention for Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorders.”
In this book, she addresses the question you ask here. Even in the best of situations, we cannot create a world where our children will never be stressed or experience anxiety or frustration. How do you teach children with Asperger’s Syndrome to cope?
Judy Endow has created a visual model designed to try to eliminate explosive behavior. This model uses a positive approach to behavior that takes away the ability to self-blame or blame others that can complicate those behaviors. The children who are taught using this model begin to learn to stop their behaviors, identify the triggers, and change the direction of the behavior into something more acceptable than a rage.
Using a model such as this can be very effective in helping children with Asperger’s first identify the situation and their feelings and then to help them learn new and acceptable ways of handling the situation. This system of identification and modification has been shown to be an effective way to bring about lasting change.
During this process, try to understand that your child with Asperger’s has a very difficult time understanding the world. He doesn’t understand why he can’t have a banana today when he had one yesterday. As he gets older, he will gain a bit more understanding of these types of situations and he will begin to learn to apply experiences from one circumstance to another. But these are skills he will have to learn.
Try to be patient with your son and try to be firm and consistent with your responses to his behaviors. If you react calmly to his actions and rages, this will help to temper his reactions. Be sure that you talk with him when he is calm about acceptable ways to behave and alternative behaviors to situations he has found himself in. The more you can talk to him about his behavior and his choices, the better chance he has of beginning to make the correct choices more often.
Have a great day,
Articles posted this week at The Parenting Aspergers Community
I would like to know more about Asperger’s in adults, 35 years and on. Also can people with Asperger’s also have Bipolar? And show extreme jealousy and possessiveness?
Asperger’s Syndrome is thought to be something that a person develops at birth or shortly thereafter, and a person will live with for the rest of his life. If detected early enough, many children receive therapy and counselling that help them develop some of the social skills that are necessary to navigate the world. Since the diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome is fairly recent, many people are not diagnosed as having Asperger’s Syndrome until they are adults. Some adults who exhibit signs or symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome …
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I have an 18-year-old son with Asperger’s. He has just finished his first semester of college living away from home. He did very well with his grades. He has made a few friends and joined some clubs. My concern is that he says he wants to go on an internship this summer. He seems very interested in it but he just can’t make himself write the essay that he needs to for this application. We have tried to encourage him but he is having trouble getting started. What can I do to help motivate him? I would also like to see him get out of his room more but he seems to have problems with this also. He wants to make friends and do things with others but he has a hard time getting started. Any suggestions?
Your son seems to have done well with his first semester of college and has survived his first living experience away from home! This is exciting for any parent, not simply the parent of a child with Asperger’s. His grades were good and he has joined in structured social activities and has made a few friends. These are great things and things that should be celebrated! Many children with Asperger’s find it difficult to …
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I am a pre-pregnancy counsellor and from all the published literature, I understand that there is no molecular/genetic diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome and hence, we cannot offer a prenatal diagnosis for a future sibling to the parents. However, have there been any new advances on this front? Secondly, what could we quote as recurrence risk if the parents have one affected child with Asperger’s syndrome?
Studies have been done on families and twins that suggest that Asperger’s Syndrome and other Autism Spectrum Disorders have a genetic component. A specific gene or marker for Asperger’s has not been identified. Because the symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome can vary so widely, it is thought that perhaps more than one gene causes Asperger’s syndrome …
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