Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:58:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4575 T. Bingeman Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:46:59 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4575 My almost 12 year old is to be told of his dx. I have had suggestions to give him to read "Famous People with Aspergers" Have you heard of this? Is it any good? (articles not official enough for him) My almost 12 year old is to be told of his dx. I have had suggestions to give him to read “Famous People with Aspergers” Have you heard of this? Is it any good? (articles not official enough for him)

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4573 Alisia Payne Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:39:21 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4573 Thank you so much for this article. My 6 year old is an Aspie and his brother is who is 7 is always asking "WHY DOES HE ACT THAT WAY". It frustrates him and though I have tried to explain that his brother has a different view on things and handles situations differently than most, he is angry and still has a hard time understanding why his brother "doesn't get it" regarding rules, ways to act in public, etc.... We are working on though and hopefully this article will help him understand a little more as we take this journey together as a family. Thank you again- Alisia Payne Thank you so much for this article. My 6 year old is an Aspie and his brother is who is 7 is always asking “WHY DOES HE ACT THAT WAY”. It frustrates him and though I have tried to explain that his brother has a different view on things and handles situations differently than most, he is angry and still has a hard time understanding why his brother “doesn’t get it” regarding rules, ways to act in public, etc…. We are working on though and hopefully this article will help him understand a little more as we take this journey together as a family.
Thank you again- Alisia Payne

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4572 ccmum Wed, 29 Oct 2008 08:15:43 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4572 My Daughter was diagnosed at nearly 10 (She's now nearly 12). It's not a predominantly male issue, it's just that girls are harder to diagnose because they deal with "life" differntly to boys. We try to see AS as a different way of thinking and dealing with things. My daughter has some wonderful resources to help her along the way, including explaining AS to her close friends, or as necessary. We leave that up to her. Her favourite is "All cats have Asperger Syndrome" which has helped explain it to herself, so she can then explain it to others. And it's a great laugh. My Daughter was diagnosed at nearly 10 (She’s now nearly 12). It’s not a predominantly male issue, it’s just that girls are harder to diagnose because they deal with “life” differntly to boys. We try to see AS as a different way of thinking and dealing with things. My daughter has some wonderful resources to help her along the way, including explaining AS to her close friends, or as necessary. We leave that up to her. Her favourite is “All cats have Asperger Syndrome” which has helped explain it to herself, so she can then explain it to others. And it’s a great laugh.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4571 helen hanson Wed, 29 Oct 2008 05:36:46 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4571 well i read it with interest and did find some things interesting and hope they will be useful to my 14 DAUGHTER i know its predominatly a male condition which doesnt help when a young woman who is trying to find her slot in the world and then perceives things as shes manly ....:( However I think for the older kids it may well be very useful to let them read this and pick out what they would like to say after all its them that sometimes...knows how they feel. We have moved countries and the difference in teaching style + age seem to have an amazing effect on her, the thing is she too is amazing at thinking outside the box, she thought that she would never master arabic but in fact as its "shapes" for writing turns out shes getting near 100% each time , and some of her new pals are saying boy that s really clever i wouldnt have given that a thought, so i think its amazing just how different cultures also view things differently , thus relieving a lot of pressure to conform.Anyway im digressing , i guess i too have had to adapt to giving mega explanations for every little thing . So i have to say once handled its a gift can be a curse at times for them wishing they werent so different bt things like this to help us show them the positives and help us understand them is excellent ..keep up the good work and thanks. well i read it with interest and did find some things interesting and hope they will be useful to my 14 DAUGHTER i know its predominatly a male condition which doesnt help when a young woman who is trying to find her slot in the world and then perceives things as shes manly ….:(
However I think for the older kids it may well be very useful to let them read this and pick out what they would like to say after all its them that sometimes…knows how they feel.
We have moved countries and the difference in teaching style + age seem to have an amazing effect on her, the thing is she too is amazing at thinking outside the box, she thought that she would never master arabic but in fact as its “shapes” for writing turns out shes getting near 100% each time , and some of her new pals are saying boy that s really clever i wouldnt have given that a thought, so i think its amazing just how different cultures also view things differently , thus relieving a lot of pressure to conform.Anyway im digressing , i guess i too have had to adapt to giving mega explanations for every little thing .
So i have to say once handled its a gift can be a curse at times for them wishing they werent so different bt things like this to help us show them the positives and help us understand them is excellent ..keep up the good work and thanks.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4570 Karol Jansen Wed, 29 Oct 2008 04:21:10 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4570 I have a 11 year old boy diagnosed with Attributes of Aspergers we believe he has aspergers. He wanted to let his friends know so the principle talked to his class and let them know he had attributes of aspergers showed a DVd Intricate minds and then my son shared about what it was to have aspergers for him. He is very articulate and I realise not all children would be able to talk. If it was just a teacher or principle that did it may help some children. It went very well the children no tell him if he is "overloaded" and understand some of his habits better. He felt better because he didn't feel like he was lying to them any more. It does benefit everyone being honest. I have a 11 year old boy diagnosed with Attributes of Aspergers we believe he has aspergers. He wanted to let his friends know so the principle talked to his class and let them know he had attributes of aspergers showed a DVd Intricate minds and then my son shared about what it was to have aspergers for him. He is very articulate and I realise not all children would be able to talk. If it was just a teacher or principle that did it may help some children. It went very well the children no tell him if he is “overloaded” and understand some of his habits better. He felt better because he didn’t feel like he was lying to them any more. It does benefit everyone being honest.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4568 Lillian Carde Wed, 29 Oct 2008 02:12:04 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4568 My going on 13 yr old grandson is comfortable knowing he has AS. He read a couple of pages of Tony Attwood's book. He knows hes different. He is lucky this year as his teacher tells him if his behaviour is inappropriate. I have been able to talk to her about his differences. He likes his teacher and his class mates have adjusted to him even though he didn't settle in with a group till he got into his third group. (They have the class in table lots of 5.) His behaviour is more apparent now especially in team sports and social-wise and camps. Camps mainly because he is such a picky eater. My going on 13 yr old grandson is comfortable knowing he has AS. He read a couple of pages of Tony Attwood’s book. He knows hes different. He is lucky this year as his teacher tells him if his behaviour is inappropriate. I have been able to talk to her about his differences. He likes his teacher and his class mates have adjusted to him even though he didn’t settle in with a group till he got into his third group. (They have the class in table lots of 5.) His behaviour is more apparent now especially in team sports and social-wise and camps. Camps mainly because he is such a picky eater.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4567 John Lionheart Tue, 28 Oct 2008 23:59:06 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4567 Was this written by an actual 14 year old Aspie? Was this written by an actual 14 year old Aspie?

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4566 satscout Tue, 28 Oct 2008 21:08:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4566 My son is 8 and in third grade. He would never say anything like this out loud... but if he had something like this in bits and pieces to respond as situations come, it would be helpful. For example - he can't tolerate a lot of smells and often won't eat lunch at school because the smells of the other kids' lunches make him sick. So he eats applesauce. And in a restaurant, we bring his meal - we always have to explain to the server that he is a "picky eater" and just won't eat anything off their menu, and then he'll brag about it. :eyeroll: On the flip side, his report card today had a comment from the teacher (aware of his PDD/high functioning autism and ADHD diagnoses) that said he makes the other kids "think outside the box" because "he looks at things from a different angle". So it's a mixed blessing. Maybe these suggestions could be boiled down to a few one- or two-sentence sound bites they could learn to use in response to given situations. Then if the other person is interested they could explain about the diagnosis, etc. My son is 8 and in third grade. He would never say anything like this out loud… but if he had something like this in bits and pieces to respond as situations come, it would be helpful. For example – he can’t tolerate a lot of smells and often won’t eat lunch at school because the smells of the other kids’ lunches make him sick. So he eats applesauce. And in a restaurant, we bring his meal – we always have to explain to the server that he is a “picky eater” and just won’t eat anything off their menu, and then he’ll brag about it. :eyeroll:

On the flip side, his report card today had a comment from the teacher (aware of his PDD/high functioning autism and ADHD diagnoses) that said he makes the other kids “think outside the box” because “he looks at things from a different angle”. So it’s a mixed blessing.

Maybe these suggestions could be boiled down to a few one- or two-sentence sound bites they could learn to use in response to given situations. Then if the other person is interested they could explain about the diagnosis, etc.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4565 Lori Caron Tue, 28 Oct 2008 20:15:48 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4565 I think the information in the article is helpful but I agree that I doubt a 14 year old could convey that to his peers (it's way too long) In simple terms perhaps. i.e. "My brain processes information a bit differently, sometimes at a higher level then most typical people. I need patience and understanding so if you are frustrated with me, tell me and I will try harder. It may appear that I don't always value our friendship but I DO!." One thing to consider (especially in Tricia's comment) is perhaps approaching the parents of their peers and explain it to them (send them this script) so that they as adults can help explain to "their" children about the slight differences and to respect and accept those differences in other human beings. I think the information in the article is helpful but I agree that I doubt a 14 year old could convey that to his peers (it’s way too long) In simple terms perhaps. i.e. “My brain processes information a bit differently, sometimes at a higher level then most typical people. I need patience and understanding so if you are frustrated with me, tell me and I will try harder. It may appear that I don’t always value our friendship but I DO!.”

One thing to consider (especially in Tricia’s comment) is perhaps approaching the parents of their peers and explain it to them (send them this script) so that they as adults can help explain to “their” children about the slight differences and to respect and accept those differences in other human beings.

]]> Explaining Aspergers to a friend http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/explaining-aspergers-to-a-friend/comment-page-1#comment-4564 Tricia Hackworth Tue, 28 Oct 2008 19:32:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=120#comment-4564 My son is 10yrs and isn't yet comfortable with his diagnosis (1yr ago). I would love for him to be at the point where he is willing to talk to anyone about having Asperger's. It's getting lonelier by the day because his peers are finding him "stranger" than they used to. I do think talking to his friends that still accept him would help them understand his Aspie traits and maybe they'll stick around. I don't know??? My son is 10yrs and isn’t yet comfortable with his diagnosis (1yr ago). I would love for him to be at the point where he is willing to talk to anyone about having Asperger’s. It’s getting lonelier by the day because his peers are finding him “stranger” than they used to. I do think talking to his friends that still accept him would help them understand his Aspie traits and maybe they’ll stick around. I don’t know???

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