How to deal with bullying

Hello again here’s this week latest blog post coming up…….

But just before that a big thank you and well done to last week’s competition winner who is Elizabeth Ellis - a free copy of the “Parenting Asperger’s Resource Guide Volume 2” is on it’s way shortly to you Elizabeth ………..as long as you can come back to the blog and give me your email address (as I don’t seem to have it)!

…….If you wish to read her tip it is Number 6 in the comments section on the following blog page:

http://www.parentingaspergers.com/blog/2008/01/29/children-with-aspergers-and-their-pets/

Anyway BIG ANNOUNCEMENT TIME………the Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide Volume 2 is now 100% ready…………

I will be sending an email to all of you who are subscribers to my free email tips, newsletters and blog articles on Wednesday 6^th February at 9pm UK Time / 4pm EST and 1pm PST in the USA……..

………so if you are not signed up for my free email alerts I suggest you do so in the “sign up box” at the bottom of this blog page immediately – otherwise you’ll miss out!………….

The email on Wednesday will tell you all about how you can get hold of your own copy of this Brand New Resource at a heavily discounted rate for an exclusive 72 hour period only……………

So look out for the email which will be titled:

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Anyway on to this week’s article about “How to cope with bullying……”

Children with Aspergers syndrome often exhibit behaviors that are peculiar enough to hold the attention of children who do not have the best interests of the child in mind. Besides simple teasing, bullying of the Aspergers child can happen in situations in which the Aspergers child has little ability to protect him or herself.

Fortunately, if such bullying happens in school, it can be managed more easily, provided your child divulges that it is going on. Most schools are cracking down on bullying and are treating such behavior as assault and punishable by legal means. Parents have every right to speak with the principal, teacher or counselor in order to ask their help in controlling the bullies. Some schools have behavioral support staff whose job it is to get to the bottom of behavior issues and crack down on bullies.

Teach your child to walk away from bullies, preferably before they get started. Help the child learn to recognize those situations that may lead to bullying, such as after school, on the playground or in lunch and teach the child to be more vigilant and stay near adults in such circumstances.

Sometimes, just having another friend around may reduce the incidence of bullying. If your child has problems making friends on his or her own, facilitate friendships with mature, understanding children who can both be a friend to your child and can help out if bullies try to tease or hurt the Aspergers child. Facilitating friendships may mean inviting a child over for a meal or for some games or television. It may mean taking the two children to a movie or on a shopping trip.

Bullies are a fact of life for some children with Aspergers syndrome. The more a parent can do to intervene with the help of other adults or children and teach the Aspergers child mechanisms for self preservation that don’t include fighting back, the better able the Aspergers child can be in dealing with this difficult situation.

Well that’s all for the article – but don’t forget to watch out for that Exclusive Free Subscriber Discount Email for the “Parenting Asperger’s Resource Guide Volume 2” this Wednesday 6^th February at 9pm UK Time / 4pm EST and 1pm PST in the USA…but until then…………

Best Wishes

Dave Angel

13 comments »

1. I can’t thank you enough for these newsletters. My six year old son has Asperger’s and me and my husband have been more informed about Asperger’s since we began receiving this newsletter than by any doctor that we have taken our son to. I can’t thank you enough for the information that you pass on to parents who may not know the necessary ways to cope with certain things that are common to Asperger’s children functioning in our society.

   Sincerely,

   Nancy and Winston Cotterell

   Comment by Nancy — February 5, 2008 @ 7:31 am

2. thank you Dave

   Comment by Rea Ottinger — February 5, 2008 @ 8:08 am

3. Being a school nurse and a parent of a middle school age child with Asperger’s, your info is so helpful. Thanks so much!

   Comment by Jenny Friel — February 5, 2008 @ 10:16 am

4. Hi, Do you have any suggestions for finding some teen asperger groups for us in Atlanta, Ga. We’re moving there this summer and the few friends 16 year old son has will be left behind. Thanks! Joan

   Comment by Joan Frawley — February 5, 2008 @ 11:04 am

5. most schools have a behaviour specialist on staff. My son, who is 11 now, has had a “contract” w/the specialist and one goal is to report any bullying behaviour. He graduated from the behavioural specialist last year and my husband and i got him a little trophy to celebrate the big day. Little things like that can go a long way with a child w/ASD’s.

   Comment by stephanie — February 5, 2008 @ 1:19 pm

6. I love getting these articles, but feel that I am late with using these techniques as my son is now 12 and was only diagnosed last year. Does anyone know of materials that would be helpful for us to stop our own son’s disrespect and “bullying”? He feels like everyone else is out to get him. Any suggestions would be much appreciated.

   Comment by Brandee — February 5, 2008 @ 2:08 pm

7. I cannot tell you how much these help us. my son is 12 & any helpful hints are greatly appreciated. I wish someone had some helpful hints for people taking advantage of him. My son is so nice that the kids get him to buy things for him. I have had to put a stop to him taking his wallet to school with him, becasue of this. They all claim that they will pay him back & then they never do. He tells me that they are his friend & I tell him a true friend would have paid him back. I am sure that the kids doing this are laughing behind his back. I cannot prove that, but why else would they take his money for candy & such & not pay him back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

   Comment by TIna Barragan — February 5, 2008 @ 2:57 pm

8. Am using Safari and Firefox on Apple Mac but text is all over the place cannot read the article but they are very informative

   Comment by Jane Blume — February 5, 2008 @ 2:58 pm

9. My son is 11 years old and has Asperger’s Syndrome. To me and many who know him, he is just the greatest kid. But, he is having a very difficult time of it in middle school this year. Though he is very intelligent, he just is not keeping up with his school work, is increasingly organized and very confused about the social scene. His test scores in Reading and Reading Comprehension scores are in the top 99% while his Math and Processing Speed scores are below average. He is failing several classes now. What is a parent to do in a situation like this? The school is putting an IEP in place so but I do not know what to has for. Thanks for your newsletter. It helps so much to have somewhere to turn.

   Comment by Jenny Austin — February 5, 2008 @ 5:54 pm

10. I thank you for your newsletter. It is helpful to have somewhere to turn. I have an 11 year old son with Asperger’s Syndrome, with advanced academic abilities in some subjects (his scores are in the 99% in Reading) yet he has below average scores in Math and Processing Speed and Short Term Memory. His difficulty with organization is really a problem as his is lack of motivation and social difficulties in school. He is failing most of his classes right now. The school will be putting an IEP in place next week. He has not had one-before he had a 504-Plan that worked through elementary. I hope to learn from others what I should ask for in his IEP-and what to know about the IEP process.

    Comment by Jenny Austin — February 5, 2008 @ 6:01 pm

11. Thank you, this news letter has come at just the right time for my son and I. Austin is just starting his schooling and you have giving me an insite to what to look out for and who to turn to when, or if bullying should become an issue. Once again thank you.

    Comment by Leeanne Sims — February 7, 2008 @ 11:19 pm

12. Jenny-
    go to OASIS website (google aspergers and OASIS) and just about everything you could want to know is there…sample IEP’s , what to ask for, how to get it, and tons and tons of printable letters and things for teachers and parents.
    This site and OASIS saved us our sanity and helped our son and family more than I can express. You are not alone, ASpies rock and it’s gonna be OK…Stay informed and educate calmly those who don’t get. BE persistent and advocate for that wonderful kid of yours. The world would be a boring bland place with out us ASpies! Reward and honor the good stuff/qualities he has…there is much. Keep shaming and closed to change educators away from him…our kids require love and clear calm people around them to achieve independence and healthy self esteem. Good luck, and HUG that KID! (read up on the laws surrounding what has to be provided for your son under the IDEA/IEP headlines on the OASIS website…)

    Comment by Adrienne — February 8, 2008 @ 2:27 am

13. good article. keep up the good workgzdt…

    good article. keep up the good workgzdt…

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