http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:58:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-9016 Vanessa (Ness) Sorth Fri, 12 Jun 2009 01:04:45 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-9016 I am a mother of not one but two teenage Aspergers boys. I have been living with them for almost 20 years now. I have not found a support group in my area and have had to learn all about AS on my own. Through trial and error until about 7 years ago when we learned that our sons both have AS. They are as different as day and night. One is outgoing the other wishes to keep to himself. They have many folks to help them with their problems but not one is able to help me help them. I get to watch them help my boys but they can't help me help them. Thank heavens that I am now going to school on line to get my masters in Crimiology and Justice Specialist Psy so that I have access to the information I need to help them in my own home. I also think my husband and I might have AS to different degrees but will not be able to be diagnosed because of our ages. Oh well life goes on in this here world good luck folks in caring for your AS kids I am a mother of not one but two teenage Aspergers boys. I have been living with them for almost 20 years now. I have not found a support group in my area and have had to learn all about AS on my own. Through trial and error until about 7 years ago when we learned that our sons both have AS. They are as different as day and night. One is outgoing the other wishes to keep to himself. They have many folks to help them with their problems but not one is able to help me help them. I get to watch them help my boys but they can’t help me help them. Thank heavens that I am now going to school on line to get my masters in Crimiology and Justice Specialist Psy so that I have access to the information I need to help them in my own home. I also think my husband and I might have AS to different degrees but will not be able to be diagnosed because of our ages. Oh well life goes on in this here world good luck folks in caring for your AS kids

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8996 Catherine Dawson Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:27:25 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8996 In your articles you keep presuming that the children will have at least one friend, the whole point is they don't! At primary I managed to engineer a play date with one child for about a year, now he is 16 and has 'mates' he might bump into in town but never goes to parties etc and he is fairly mild. In your articles you keep presuming that the children will have at least one friend, the whole point is they don’t! At primary I managed to engineer a play date with one child for about a year, now he is 16 and has ‘mates’ he might bump into in town but never goes to parties etc and he is fairly mild.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8992 Eliott Schultz Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:07:37 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8992 My son is now 18 and has decieded that rules are not for him and freedom with his friends trumps everything else. To this end he has moved out and is living with a friend and his family. We know this is a bad situation for him as he has drinking issues and is a real follower. The house has people with habitual criminal activities. We have tried in vane with all our counselors to talk him into coming home. We are at a lose and because we didn't get a diagnoses until he was about 16 or so it has been a long battle and we were not able to lay the groundwork we should have been able had we known earlier. A lot of your help is for these younger kids but what about my older kid. Any ideas would be appreciated. My son is now 18 and has decieded that rules are not for him and freedom with his friends trumps everything else. To this end he has moved out and is living with a friend and his family. We know this is a bad situation for him as he has drinking issues and is a real follower. The house has people with habitual criminal activities. We have tried in vane with all our counselors to talk him into coming home. We are at a lose and because we didn’t get a diagnoses until he was about 16 or so it has been a long battle and we were not able to lay the groundwork we should have been able had we known earlier. A lot of your help is for these younger kids but what about my older kid. Any ideas would be appreciated.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8938 Lela Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:09:08 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8938 When my son was younger, he would say he wanted to marry me. He also wanted to marry his grandmother, his teacher and his babysitter. When he wanted to marry me, I would tell him that we could not get married because I was already married...he was 5 or so when all this went on. He seemed to get the fact that sons can't marry their moms but he still has a hard time defining friendship. Everyone he meets is instantly his friend - he doesn't understand the dynamics of people pretending to be your friend just to get something from you. This has happened to him a few times (people being nice & then stealing his things) but he still doesn't understand why they did that because they are supposed to be his friend. He is 10 now, so I am hoping that with time, he will be able to come to understand this all better. When my son was younger, he would say he wanted to marry me. He also wanted to marry his grandmother, his teacher and his babysitter. When he wanted to marry me, I would tell him that we could not get married because I was already married…he was 5 or so when all this went on. He seemed to get the fact that sons can’t marry their moms but he still has a hard time defining friendship. Everyone he meets is instantly his friend – he doesn’t understand the dynamics of people pretending to be your friend just to get something from you. This has happened to him a few times (people being nice & then stealing his things) but he still doesn’t understand why they did that because they are supposed to be his friend. He is 10 now, so I am hoping that with time, he will be able to come to understand this all better.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8895 Michele Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:20:32 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8895 My son also use to tell me he was going to marry me. His dad just made it a game saying no she's my girl; and they'd go back and forth with "no, she's my girl." He's 15 now, and no-one was more shocked than me - he had a date!! He met a girl at the movies and they have been calling each other. Don't worry they out-grow it. My son also use to tell me he was going to marry me. His dad just made it a game saying no she’s my girl; and they’d go back and forth with “no, she’s my girl.” He’s 15 now, and no-one was more shocked than me – he had a date!! He met a girl at the movies and they have been calling each other. Don’t worry they out-grow it.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8887 Karen Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:24:11 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8887 my son use to ask me to marry him all the time. I told him that I was very happy that he loved me but that I could never marry him because I am his mother. He said he didn't understand. I told him he would think differently when he was older. I told him that in the mean time I would always love him as his mother and he as my son. I promised him that we could open the same discussion when he turned 18 to 21. He was happy with that. He is 30 now and we have not had to reopen the discussion. He has had trouble understanding different whims of women, however. I explained to him that most men suffer this dilema and not to feel bad. Thats why the book was written Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Love is a difficult word for him to comprehend and after a few abrupt situations he became more cautious. He wants to marry but he does not understand courting. I never understood any of that either. We do not understand feelings very well. We tend to depend on trust and expect that others think the same. I talk with him and use myself as an example as I have had numerous experiences and had to learn from them. I still learn. I hug him and tell him The Apple didn't fall far from the tree as he is just like me. my son use to ask me to marry him all the time. I told him that I was very happy that he loved me but that I could never marry him because I am his mother. He said he didn’t understand. I told him he would think differently when he was older. I told him that in the mean time I would always love him as his mother and he as my son. I promised him that we could open the same discussion when he turned 18 to 21. He was happy with that. He is 30 now and we have not had to reopen the discussion. He has had trouble understanding different whims of women, however. I explained to him that most men suffer this dilema and not to feel bad. Thats why the book was written Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Love is a difficult word for him to comprehend and after a few abrupt situations he became more cautious. He wants to marry but he does not understand courting. I never understood any of that either. We do not understand feelings very well. We tend to depend on trust and expect that others think the same. I talk with him and use myself as an example as I have had numerous experiences and had to learn from them. I still learn. I hug him and tell him The Apple didn’t fall far from the tree as he is just like me.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-explain-abstract-concepts-of-friendship-and-love-to-a-child-with-aspergers/comment-page-1#comment-8883 sharon Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:48:21 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=474#comment-8883 I care for my nephew who looks on me as his mum..He uses the wrod love alot because we are a loving family..My problem is he is constantally saying he wants to marry me..We have tried to explain he will meet a girlfriend when he is older but he really doesnt get it....Any Ideas much appreciated.. I care for my nephew who looks on me as his mum..He uses the wrod love alot because we are a loving family..My problem is he is constantally saying he wants to marry me..We have tried to explain he will meet a girlfriend when he is older but he really doesnt get it….Any Ideas much appreciated..

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