http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:23:49 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5717 RONNIE Thu, 29 Jan 2009 13:46:05 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5717 I have a 13 yr old and at this point I think it may be hormones that are agrivating the situation. MY son who usually gets along in school with others was sent to the office for threatening a classmate. He has also been taking others jersys as mentioned before. at times I am at my wits end for what else to do. I am reading books and having him talk to the phsycologist today. I think I may get him set up with a councelor. If anyone has any ideas please let me know. I have a 13 yr old and at this point I think it may be hormones that are agrivating the situation. MY son who usually gets along in school with others was sent to the office for threatening a classmate. He has also been taking others jersys as mentioned before. at times I am at my wits end for what else to do. I am reading books and having him talk to the phsycologist today. I think I may get him set up with a councelor. If anyone has any ideas please let me know.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5709 tricia Gillbanks Wed, 28 Jan 2009 10:09:59 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5709 OOPS! I sent the letter I had altered to suit my son (re neck)Just put the bits in that are appropriate or relevant to your child. OOPS! I sent the letter I had altered to suit my son (re neck)Just put the bits in that are appropriate or relevant to your child.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5676 Tricia Gillbanks Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:51:02 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5676 I have the letter. I want to know where I got if from for permission to use in a newsletter. Hi, my name is _________________________________and I am in your class this year. I want you to know a little about me. I’m nervous to be in your class because it’s new and I don’t know what to expect. I need some time to adjust and then I will feel comfortable. Please don’t judge me on my first few weeks. As the time goes by, you will be amazed by the skills you never thought I possessed. I sometimes look like I don’t understand. That’s just because I don’t have the same expressions and reactions as other people. As I become familiar with your classroom I will begin to shine. A great way to speed up this process is letting me know what to expect. I usually need to know in advance of any changes to our program as I don’t like change and get anxious. I don’t have any semi circular canals – the balance organs – in my ears, so I may find some physical activities challenging. Because I have 2 vertebrae fused in my neck, I have been told to avoid doing forward rolls or flips on the trampoline. You are my teacher and I look up to you. I want to succeed this year but I can’t do it without your help and most importantly, your belief in me that I can do it! 1. What is my general disposition? 2. What am I really, really good at? 3. What do I absolutely LOVE doing? 4. What do I absolutely HATE doing? 5. What academics are my strong areas? 6. What academics do I need a lot of extra help with? 7. Which skills would my parents really like me to work on this year? 8. How do you know when I’m getting frustrated? 9. What can you do to calm me down before the storm hits? 10. Too late! The storm hit! What can you do to calm me down? 11. What strategies work really well to get me to do something I don’t want to do? 12. What typically makes me laugh? 13. What consequences back-fire and don’t give the desired results? 14. I don’t like consequences, but which consequences work well for me? 15. I would also like you to know… I have the letter. I want to know where I got if from for permission to use in a newsletter.
Hi, my name is _________________________________and I am in your class this year.
I want you to know a little about me.
I’m nervous to be in your class because it’s new and I don’t know what to expect. I need some time to adjust and then I will feel comfortable.
Please don’t judge me on my first few weeks. As the time goes by, you will be amazed by the skills you never thought I possessed.
I sometimes look like I don’t understand. That’s just because I don’t have the same expressions and reactions as other people.
As I become familiar with your classroom I will begin to shine. A great way to speed up this process is letting me know what to expect.
I usually need to know in advance of any changes to our program as I don’t like change and get anxious.
I don’t have any semi circular canals – the balance organs – in my ears, so I may find some physical activities challenging.
Because I have 2 vertebrae fused in my neck, I have been told to avoid doing forward rolls or flips on the trampoline.
You are my teacher and I look up to you. I want to succeed this year but I can’t do it without your help and most importantly, your belief in me that I can do it!
1. What is my general disposition?
2. What am I really, really good at?
3. What do I absolutely LOVE doing?
4. What do I absolutely HATE doing?
5. What academics are my strong areas?
6. What academics do I need a lot of extra help with?
7. Which skills would my parents really like me to work on this year?
8. How do you know when I’m getting frustrated?
9. What can you do to calm me down before the storm hits?
10. Too late! The storm hit! What can you do to calm me down?
11. What strategies work really well to get me to do something I don’t want to do?
12. What typically makes me laugh?
13. What consequences back-fire and don’t give the desired results?
14. I don’t like consequences, but which consequences work well for me?
15. I would also like you to know…

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5669 Anne Marie Sat, 24 Jan 2009 14:51:53 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5669 My 13-year-old recently has been getting into lots of trouble for taking things from others. We have been lucky the police have not been involved (yet). I have been telling him all the 'rules' and 'consequences' until I am blue in the face! Yet I wonder if he really gets it...he listens and nods his head and we have seemingly good conversations about it all,but...I just feel uneasy. My 13-year-old recently has been getting into lots of trouble for taking things from others. We have been lucky the police have not been involved (yet). I have been telling him all the ‘rules’ and ‘consequences’ until I am blue in the face! Yet I wonder if he really gets it…he listens and nods his head and we have seemingly good conversations about it all,but…I just feel uneasy.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5666 Donna Fri, 23 Jan 2009 21:25:01 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5666 Hi The Dear teacher letter sounds good if anyone knows it or where to get it . thanks Hi The Dear teacher letter sounds good if anyone knows it or where to get it . thanks

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5661 Kerissa Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:56:55 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5661 My son is 9 and has Meltdowns that are getting worse. He was suspended last week due to his teacher being kicked and a bookcase being kicked while he was flipping out. 2 days later he kicked a hole in our wall. He was laying on his back and pounding his foot on the wall while I was taking a shower. Once it is over he is very sorry and cries I did not mean to do that I could not help it. I will try very hard next time. He is a banger, bang bang bang during his fits. It is almost a drum rhythm. He is big and strong and feels no pain so I am scared if this continues to escalate he will end up in jail or a mental hospital if we don't get his under control now. We have many services in place for many of his areas of need and do not have a behavioral therapist yet. This has been or biggest challenge. Finding one that is available is a huge challenge and affording one is another block. They cost $225 per hour and do not take health insurance. My son is 9 and has Meltdowns that are getting worse. He was suspended last week due to his teacher being kicked and a bookcase being kicked while he was flipping out. 2 days later he kicked a hole in our wall. He was laying on his back and pounding his foot on the wall while I was taking a shower. Once it is over he is very sorry and cries I did not mean to do that I could not help it. I will try very hard next time. He is a banger, bang bang bang during his fits. It is almost a drum rhythm. He is big and strong and feels no pain so I am scared if this continues to escalate he will end up in jail or a mental hospital if we don’t get his under control now. We have many services in place for many of his areas of need and do not have a behavioral therapist yet. This has been or biggest challenge. Finding one that is available is a huge challenge and affording one is another block. They cost $225 per hour and do not take health insurance.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5653 Tricia Gillbanks Fri, 23 Jan 2009 05:45:43 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5653 I am trying to find out where I found the Dear Teacher letter written as if the child has written it. it starts of Hi, my name is ? and I am in your class this year. I want to tell you a little about me etc And goes on to a list of questions eg What is my general disposition? What am I really good at? etc And the child explains. I am trying to find out where I found the Dear Teacher letter written as if the child has written it. it starts of
Hi, my name is ? and I am in your class this year. I want to tell you a little about me etc
And goes on to a list of questions eg What is my general disposition? What am I really good at? etc And the child explains.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5630 brenda cox Thu, 22 Jan 2009 13:08:48 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5630 i have a 4 yr. old grandson who has AS and is really smart,and has trouble with eating faily meals, he may eat for a week everything you give him then he just about stops eating, can anything be done and what is the right way to do it? he sometimes gets set to his room and told he is bad for not eating and I worry that this is wrong and may hurt him more than help him? Please Help? i have a 4 yr. old grandson who has AS and is really smart,and has trouble with eating faily meals, he may eat for a week everything you give him then he just about stops eating, can anything be done and what is the right way to do it? he sometimes gets set to his room and told he is bad for not eating and I worry that this is wrong and may hurt him more than help him? Please Help?

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5574 RONNIE Wed, 21 Jan 2009 16:38:06 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5574 This comes just as I received a call yesterday on my 13 yr aspie. He has been taking football jerseys at school and wearing them. I do not know if he takes them for thier texture or if he feels more like the other kids when he wears them. This is even more trouble some sime he has jerseys at haome that are his but not our school jersey. Any more ideas on how we should handle this? This comes just as I received a call yesterday on my 13 yr aspie. He has been taking football jerseys at school and wearing them. I do not know if he takes them for thier texture or if he feels more like the other kids when he wears them. This is even more trouble some sime he has jerseys at haome that are his but not our school jersey. Any more ideas on how we should handle this?

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-you-child-with-aspergers-understand-about-using-other-peoples-things/comment-page-1#comment-5569 Wendy Kennedy Wed, 21 Jan 2009 00:18:47 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=212#comment-5569 My aspie is very rule-driven. I have to set limits in the form of rules ("remember, the rule is you must ask permission before you touch", "the rule is do not enter your brother's room unless he invites you in". When there is an infraction, I ask her to tell me who owns the item, then remind her of the rule. Unfortunately, this does not always work. She has weird ideas about property ownership- we use the public library a LOT, and she is constantly claiming the books are "hers" or complaining that her brothers are stealing their books. She can't seem to understand the idea of borrowing in that context. My aspie is very rule-driven. I have to set limits in the form of rules (”remember, the rule is you must ask permission before you touch”, “the rule is do not enter your brother’s room unless he invites you in”. When there is an infraction, I ask her to tell me who owns the item, then remind her of the rule. Unfortunately, this does not always work. She has weird ideas about property ownership- we use the public library a LOT, and she is constantly claiming the books are “hers” or complaining that her brothers are stealing their books. She can’t seem to understand the idea of borrowing in that context.

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