http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:23:49 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4880 Christl Bragan Tue, 09 Dec 2008 01:39:38 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4880 we too use a advent calendar. food and visits are major issues. if we eat at other's homes, i always feed him before, or i bring simple sandwiches (my son likes nutella) that don't need rfridgeration or heating, so it will not be a burden or special request of the host. we too bring things for him to do and explain what will happen, and what expectastions we have of him. people/family either accept that he will not participate or want to go home or they won't. our son knows, that while we want to visit, there are time limits.. that helps.. by the way, i love my "aspie"... it's so much easier to deal with than many "normal" kids.. you just have to be rational and explain things... none of the emotional/hysterical meltdowns i see of other kids when they don't get their way!!! we too use a advent calendar. food and visits are major issues. if we eat at other’s homes, i always feed him before, or i bring simple sandwiches (my son likes nutella) that don’t need rfridgeration or heating, so it will not be a burden or special request of the host. we too bring things for him to do and explain what will happen, and what expectastions we have of him. people/family either accept that he will not participate or want to go home or they won’t. our son knows, that while we want to visit, there are time limits.. that helps..
by the way, i love my “aspie”… it’s so much easier to deal with than many “normal” kids.. you just have to be rational and explain things… none of the emotional/hysterical meltdowns i see of other kids when they don’t get their way!!!

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4878 Karen Robins Mon, 08 Dec 2008 13:31:26 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4878 My 12 year old Aspie has never eaten Sunday Lunch at the table when all the relatives come to dinner, they are used to this and it is not a problem, he tends to stay out of the way, he will come and say hello but then disappears again, he always eats his dinner once the guests have gone. At Xmas he will sit at the table if I explain beforehand, he will say when he wants to go. This year we are going to my brothers which is a real problem as I will have to make sure he takes enough things with him to keep him occupied in another room otherwise he will just want to go home.Unfortunately Jack's Birthday is in December, I quite agree as regards the presents, I do not have them in the house until the last minute as he will not be able to resist them and it ends up with a lot of tension all round. It does need careful planning. A peacefull and enjoyable Xmas to you all. My 12 year old Aspie has never eaten Sunday Lunch at the table when all the relatives come to dinner, they are used to this and it is not a problem, he tends to stay out of the way, he will come and say hello but then disappears again, he always eats his dinner once the guests have gone. At Xmas he will sit at the table if I explain beforehand, he will say when he wants to go. This year we are going to my brothers which is a real problem as I will have to make sure he takes enough things with him to keep him occupied in another room otherwise he will just want to go home.Unfortunately Jack’s Birthday is in December, I quite agree as regards the presents, I do not have them in the house until the last minute as he will not be able to resist them and it ends up with a lot of tension all round. It does need careful planning. A peacefull and enjoyable Xmas to you all.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4877 Helen Chin Mon, 08 Dec 2008 01:58:56 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4877 My son has autistic features and he is 20 years old. Through the years, I have adapted to his idiosyncrasies. This year, he helped out with the Christmas decorations and cookies too. He is also looking forward to seeing his brother who has been away in university in UK for the past year. My son has autistic features and he is 20 years old. Through the years, I have adapted to his idiosyncrasies. This year, he helped out with the Christmas decorations and cookies too. He is also looking forward to seeing his brother who has been away in university in UK for the past year.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4876 Kelli Sun, 07 Dec 2008 04:43:33 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4876 I tell my daughter about your articles in hopes that she will take some of your advice. She is still in a state of denial. She knows her son has Asperger's but she still thinks that he will grow out of it or become normal. I do not see my grandson often but when I am with him I am amazed at things that he has been able to accomplish. He will be 4 this year and he is already enrollsed in a special program in the town he lives in. He has never showed any violent episodes. He does get anxious at times. He is beginning to learn to show some emotions but he does not speak much. I am greatful for your organization and the insight that you share. I tell my daughter about your articles in hopes that she will take some of your advice. She is still in a state of denial. She knows her son has Asperger’s but she still thinks that he will grow out of it or become normal. I do not see my grandson often but when I am with him I am amazed at things that he has been able to accomplish. He will be 4 this year and he is already enrollsed in a special program in the town he lives in. He has never showed any violent episodes. He does get anxious at times. He is beginning to learn to show some emotions but he does not speak much. I am greatful for your organization and the insight that you share.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4874 Donna Wexler, SLP Sat, 06 Dec 2008 14:07:30 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4874 Great article! I wrote one at info@parentingspecialneeds.com which is an online magazine. If you'd like to read it, go to that site. Thanks Donna Great article! I wrote one at info@parentingspecialneeds.com which is an online magazine. If you’d like to read it, go to that site. Thanks Donna

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4872 Jo Harris Sat, 06 Dec 2008 11:38:13 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4872 I made the big mistake of not making sure the presents from my visiting mother-in-law for my 7 year old son (diagnosed this summer with aspergers) were away before he came home from school. He saw one and has been a nightmare ever since. I've tried to explain that Santa magics all xmas presents away to the North Pole so he can deliver them Xmas eve but my son's not buying it and my husband feels we should be able to leave presents from other people under the tree. I'm so grateful for your article this week as there are times that others, even his father, cannot appreciate how distressed our son can get when he can't have what he wants and leaving presents for him under the tree, teasing him for 3 weeks would be unbearable for him (and me!). I made the big mistake of not making sure the presents from my visiting mother-in-law for my 7 year old son (diagnosed this summer with aspergers) were away before he came home from school. He saw one and has been a nightmare ever since. I’ve tried to explain that Santa magics all xmas presents away to the North Pole so he can deliver them Xmas eve but my son’s not buying it and my husband feels we should be able to leave presents from other people under the tree. I’m so grateful for your article this week as there are times that others, even his father, cannot appreciate how distressed our son can get when he can’t have what he wants and leaving presents for him under the tree, teasing him for 3 weeks would be unbearable for him (and me!).

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4869 Kimberly Hitt Sat, 06 Dec 2008 05:46:16 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4869 I am new to the blogging. I have a three year old who was diagnosed with classic Autism not to long ago however the developmental pediatrician stated that later on she would mostly likely be diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, just developmentally couldn't totally make the diagnosis. She stated to focus on Aspies when seeking education and treatment. I am finding these articles very helpful and find it very comforting to know there are other parents dealing with the same issues. Before she was diagnosed I thought she had SEVERE "brat-itis" and thought I was doing something completely wrong to cause this and I felt so bad for her because she seemed so out of control---it must have felt frightening to her. It is comforting to know that while I will call it "brat-itis" under my breath from time to time (afterall she is still three years old), I have coping skills in place for myself and more importantly my daughter. These articles go a long way. I am new to the blogging. I have a three year old who was diagnosed with classic Autism not to long ago however the developmental pediatrician stated that later on she would mostly likely be diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, just developmentally couldn’t totally make the diagnosis. She stated to focus on Aspies when seeking education and treatment. I am finding these articles very helpful and find it very comforting to know there are other parents dealing with the same issues. Before she was diagnosed I thought she had SEVERE “brat-itis” and thought I was doing something completely wrong to cause this and I felt so bad for her because she seemed so out of control—it must have felt frightening to her. It is comforting to know that while I will call it “brat-itis” under my breath from time to time (afterall she is still three years old), I have coping skills in place for myself and more importantly my daughter. These articles go a long way.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4868 Lillian Carde Sat, 06 Dec 2008 03:17:24 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4868 We have lost the courtcase with our 13 year old grandson. He lives with his mum now after ten years. I have given him a diary to write in so we can talk about anything tht upsets him. His counsellor at school said that would be a good thing to do and she can follow it up next year to make sure his change in home is monitored. We have lost the courtcase with our 13 year old grandson. He lives with his mum now after ten years. I have given him a diary to write in so we can talk about anything tht upsets him. His counsellor at school said that would be a good thing to do and she can follow it up next year to make sure his change in home is monitored.

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4867 Jane Place Sat, 06 Dec 2008 03:17:21 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4867 Ahhhh! The holidays. My son is just getting over his October birthday. As he stresses for about 2 months during that time. Along comes Thanksgiving which we have a quiet day and do something in the afternoon that he likes. It happens to be horseback riding. We had our first semi-successful Christmas last year. Our immediate family came to exchange gifts and hopefully a nice brunch on Christmas Eve. He is more comfortable at our home. I agreed to let Tommy know exactly what he would be getting as gifts. Because it works for us. Also since I have two daughters and three small grandchildren I had to try and save the day. Tommy played Santa and sat in a big chair and gave out the gifts one by one. We had a great day. I usually avoid putiing up the tree until Christmas Eve. I found that to be less stressful for all!! I now shop online to avoid the crowds. Tommy also starts surfing the web for gift ideas. This year if weather permits we will exchange gifts at a park near the horse trails are and he will ride horseback as Santa with the sack of gifts for the babies. I do throw in a surprise gift or two for him on Christmas. For the most part Tommy is so anxious during this time. A small gathering at home works best. My favorite day is the day after Christmas!! Happy Holidays-Keep it simple. Jane Ahhhh! The holidays. My son is just getting over his October birthday. As he stresses for about 2 months during that time.
Along comes Thanksgiving which we have a quiet day and do something in the afternoon that he likes. It happens to be horseback riding.
We had our first semi-successful Christmas last year. Our immediate family came to exchange gifts and hopefully a nice brunch on Christmas Eve. He is more comfortable at our home. I agreed to let Tommy know exactly what he would be getting as gifts. Because it works for us. Also since I have two daughters and three small grandchildren I had to try and save the day. Tommy played Santa and sat in a big chair and gave out the gifts one by one. We had a great day. I usually avoid putiing up the tree until Christmas Eve. I found that to be less stressful for all!! I now shop online to avoid the crowds. Tommy also starts surfing the web for gift ideas. This year if weather permits we will exchange gifts at a park near the horse trails are and he will ride horseback as Santa with the sack of gifts for the babies. I do throw in a surprise gift or two for him on Christmas. For the most part Tommy is so anxious during this time. A small gathering at home works best. My favorite day is the day after Christmas!! Happy Holidays-Keep it simple. Jane

]]> http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/how-to-help-your-child-with-aspergers-survive-the-holiday-season/comment-page-1#comment-4866 Lisa Gonzalez Sat, 06 Dec 2008 02:12:40 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=161#comment-4866 Thank God for your article!!!! I have always have dreaded the holiday time and his birthday is December 18 too. This year is not any better too. Now I can understand my son and why he acts this way. We had an incident happen last year and my sister won't come and stay at our home anymore. Thank God for your article!!!! I have always have dreaded the holiday time and his birthday is December 18 too. This year is not any better too. Now I can understand my son and why he acts this way. We had an incident happen last year and my sister won’t come and stay at our home anymore.

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