Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:41:37 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-9272 Maryanne Sun, 21 Jun 2009 00:27:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-9272 Is there anyone who lives in Va. who would want to do an aspergers playdate or camp or activity? My son is seven and he is very lonely. I will do what it takes to help these kids. Is there anyone who lives in Va. who would want to do an aspergers playdate or camp or activity? My son is seven and he is very lonely. I will do what it takes to help these kids.

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-8038 Rachel Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:33:10 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-8038 Hi there, just to comment about social services support - I am a social worker for children with disabilities aswell as being a mother to a 12 year old with DAMP and ASD. Social services do not want your child in care and their aim is to provide the support you need to manage your child at home. We have recently had an assessment of need and are receiving direct payments so my Dad can do the care (my son won't go with anyone else). A disabled child is a 'child in need' as defined by The Children Act 1989 and as such has a legal right to an assessment of need, you can just phone the local authority and ask for one. If the assessment concludes that services are required to meet your childs needs, these also must be provided. Direct payments is one way, but there are others. When I first received an assessment I was told that there were assessed needs but that my son didn't meet the criteria of the team so wouldn't receive any service, it was only because I knew this was illegal I could effectively challenge, so yes if you are struggling an advocate is a good idea. Good luck-Rachel Hi there,
just to comment about social services support – I am a social worker for children with disabilities aswell as being a mother to a 12 year old with DAMP and ASD. Social services do not want your child in care and their aim is to provide the support you need to manage your child at home.
We have recently had an assessment of need and are receiving direct payments so my Dad can do the care (my son won’t go with anyone else).

A disabled child is a ‘child in need’ as defined by The Children Act 1989 and as such has a legal right to an assessment of need, you can just phone the local authority and ask for one. If the assessment concludes that services are required to meet your childs needs, these also must be provided. Direct payments is one way, but there are others.

When I first received an assessment I was told that there were assessed needs but that my son didn’t meet the criteria of the team so wouldn’t receive any service, it was only because I knew this was illegal I could effectively challenge, so yes if you are struggling an advocate is a good idea.

Good luck-Rachel

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5727 Leesa Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:39:46 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5727 I just remembered I was told the playstaion SIMs game may be good for basic social/self care skills. I haven't tried it yet my kids are too little. - Leesa I just remembered I was told the playstaion SIMs game may be good for basic social/self care skills. I haven’t tried it yet my kids are too little. – Leesa

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5726 Susan Woff Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:55:08 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5726 PS Nicola you will not have your child taken off you - the social services don't want them as they have nowhere for them to go! Seriously this is not something you need to worry about PS Nicola you will not have your child taken off you – the social services don’t want them as they have nowhere for them to go! Seriously this is not something you need to worry about

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5725 Susan Woff Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:43:34 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5725 This is for Nicola Stephenson who asked about direct payments. This is a system whereby you have a set amount of hours of respite allocated to you and you are given the financial resources direct to you in a sepetate bank account. You choose the person to provide the respite and pay them and their NI and tax (you are given guidance on this).Firstly you will need a social worker to do a case assesement to determine if you are eligble. You are entitiled to an advocate to be with you and act on your behalf and I would strongly recomment this - initally I was told my daughter did not even fit the criteria to be allocated a social worker - in other wordsour situation wasn't "bad" enough. I contacted an advocate and lo and behold have been allocated a social worker, I am not waiting for the assesment to be carried out. You could try cab or a local autistic society or child and family who should be able to put you in touch with advocates. You will have to fight your corner - as usual! Good luck. This is for Nicola Stephenson who asked about direct payments. This is a system whereby you have a set amount of hours of respite allocated to you and you are given the financial resources direct to you in a sepetate bank account. You choose the person to provide the respite and pay them and their NI and tax (you are given guidance on this).Firstly you will need a social worker to do a case assesement to determine if you are eligble. You are entitiled to an advocate to be with you and act on your behalf and I would strongly recomment this – initally I was told my daughter did not even fit the criteria to be allocated a social worker – in other wordsour situation wasn’t “bad” enough. I contacted an advocate and lo and behold have been allocated a social worker, I am not waiting for the assesment to be carried out. You could try cab or a local autistic society or child and family who should be able to put you in touch with advocates. You will have to fight your corner – as usual! Good luck.

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5724 robyn Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:57:56 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5724 does anyone's child have trouble putting themselves to sleep at night? my son is 8 and not been diagnosed - this is just something I think could be going on with him...he seems unable to "turn himself off" when it's time to sleep. does anyone’s child have trouble putting themselves to sleep at night? my son is 8 and not been diagnosed – this is just something I think could be going on with him…he seems unable to “turn himself off” when it’s time to sleep.

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5723 Maggie Fri, 30 Jan 2009 14:11:38 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5723 "Teach him how to talk about celebrities, teen rituals, and sports using social stories and role playing" This kind of irked me. Just because my son has Asperger's I won't ask him to pretend he is interested in things just to make friends, just like I wouldn't ask my tomboy daughter to pretend not to like dresses and dolls. I will teach him to understand that everyone has different interests and not to fake what he likes...what kind of friend would that make him? “Teach him how to talk about celebrities, teen rituals, and sports using social stories and role playing” This kind of irked me. Just because my son has Asperger’s I won’t ask him to pretend he is interested in things just to make friends, just like I wouldn’t ask my tomboy daughter to pretend not to like dresses and dolls. I will teach him to understand that everyone has different interests and not to fake what he likes…what kind of friend would that make him?

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5720 Wendy Denton Thu, 29 Jan 2009 19:30:11 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5720 This is for Nicola. Hang in there.! I left my ex 3 years ago due to long term domestic violence.went to live in a womens refuge with m 3 kids,all girls. life been hard since as single Mum,lack of money etc etc, My youngest,now 6 was showing many problems ,social interaction,obsessions,sensory problems,poor co ordination.etc etc . I wondered what the hell i was doing wrong. met another Mum at school,she said her child had asapergers,i'd never heard of it, looked it up on the internet and thought they were describing my daughter. My docter refered her to a specialist and she was diagnosed with Aspergers and DAMP late 2008. Job centre advised me to apply for Disability Living Allowance and then Carers allowance on her behalf. Aslo apparently entitled to respite care from Social Services. Go to your local CAB, mine have been brilliant. Hope this helps, Wendy This is for Nicola.
Hang in there.!
I left my ex 3 years ago due to long term domestic violence.went to live in a womens refuge with m 3 kids,all girls. life been hard since as single Mum,lack of money etc etc, My youngest,now 6 was showing many problems ,social interaction,obsessions,sensory problems,poor co ordination.etc etc . I wondered what the hell i was doing wrong. met another Mum at school,she said her child had asapergers,i’d never heard of it, looked it up on the internet and thought they were describing my daughter. My docter refered her to a specialist and she was diagnosed with Aspergers and DAMP late 2008.
Job centre advised me to apply for Disability Living Allowance and then Carers allowance on her behalf. Aslo apparently entitled to respite care from Social Services. Go to your local CAB, mine have been brilliant.
Hope this helps,
Wendy

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5718 Netty Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:04:58 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5718 This is for Nicola. You should contact your local National Autistic Society group or look on their website. I went on an NAS help programme yesterday which covered the things you mention: social services, direct payments etc and yes, you should contact them - all the info you need should be on the NAS website. This is for Nicola. You should contact your local National Autistic Society group or look on their website. I went on an NAS help programme yesterday which covered the things you mention: social services, direct payments etc and yes, you should contact them – all the info you need should be on the NAS website.

]]> Is is possible to teach my 12 year old with Aspergers to socialize? http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/is-is-possible-to-teach-my-12-year-old-with-aspergers-to-socialize/comment-page-1#comment-5714 Chuck Sumner Wed, 28 Jan 2009 21:47:34 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=221#comment-5714 My son will be 13 in February and he has difficulty with developing friendships. He has afew friends who accept him for who he is and help him but then others in his grade call him gay because he hangs out with boys and most notably becasue he is "different" from them. Ifind myself on occasion sticking up for him because he comes home upset about the other kids. My biggest worry now is the transition to high school next year where the peer pressure will only increase. For those of you who share the everyday trials of being an aspie parent KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. They will love yo more and more evryday and you will get to see your child grow not only physically but emotioanlly too. My son is very good with younger children and I applaud him for his help with the younger ones. My son will be 13 in February and he has difficulty with developing friendships. He has afew friends who accept him for who he is and help him but then others in his grade call him gay because he hangs out with boys and most notably becasue he is “different” from them. Ifind myself on occasion sticking up for him because he comes home upset about the other kids. My biggest worry now is the transition to high school next year where the peer pressure will only increase.
For those of you who share the everyday trials of being an aspie parent KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. They will love yo more and more evryday and you will get to see your child grow not only physically but emotioanlly too. My son is very good with younger children and I applaud him for his help with the younger ones.

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