Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:58:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-9919 jack martin Thu, 17 Sep 2009 13:13:00 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-9919 More like a question. MY grandson seems to be getting worse. he is now 17 and has run of schools to attend/ he is being home schooled by his mother, a special needs teacher herself. my question is, does this get worse as one lives on? as a child he would come over and help me with projects, play video games. he would participate in sports (although never liked it) he now spens most of his time playing online video games in the wee hours of the day. more, his sister has gone off to college and that leaves him with no one his age to connect to, unless you consider his online opponents. i miss him terribly even though he lives next door. he is on medication. must i expect this to progress? More like a question. MY grandson seems to be getting worse. he is now 17 and has run of schools to attend/ he is being home schooled by his mother, a special needs teacher herself. my question is, does this get worse as one lives on?
as a child he would come over and help me with projects, play video games. he would participate in sports (although never liked it) he now spens most of his time playing online video games in the wee hours of the day. more, his sister has gone off to college and that leaves him with no one his age to connect to, unless you consider his online opponents. i miss him terribly even though he lives next door. he is on medication. must i expect this to progress?

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-9353 Lourdes Villwock Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:32:48 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-9353 Thank you so much Dave fo the info about mindblindness!! It's so accurate and I will show this to my husband who doesn't get why I'm always explaining things to our aspie over and over. Keep up the good work! Thank you so much Dave fo the info about mindblindness!! It’s so accurate and I will show this to my husband who doesn’t get why I’m always explaining things to our aspie over and over. Keep up the good work!

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6793 tom hunter Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:12:24 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6793 In two years of excellent experiences with the info from this site, This one stands out as one of the most informative & on point articles of all. Our eight yr old is running for king of mindblindness; extremely frustrating. As always, thanks for all you do. In two years of excellent experiences with the info from this site, This one stands out as one of the most informative & on point articles of all. Our eight yr old is running for king of mindblindness; extremely frustrating. As always, thanks for all you do.

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6447 Liz Daniels Fri, 06 Mar 2009 19:00:48 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6447 I am so happy that I found your website! I feel totally alone in raising my 15 year old Aspie son, but this helps me realize that I am not alone. The answers are so helpful and I appreciate you sharing this wealth of information. I believe it will make a big difference in our lives. Thank you, Liz & Justin I am so happy that I found your website! I feel totally alone in raising my 15 year old Aspie son, but this helps me realize that I am not alone. The answers are so helpful and I appreciate you sharing this wealth of information. I believe it will make a big difference in our lives.
Thank you,
Liz & Justin

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6441 Dana Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:58:03 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6441 My 6 year old son and I are new to the world of Aspergers. I always new something just wasn't right, but couldn't put my finger on what it was, or even how to address it. This has been like an awakening that gives me great hope for helping my son. I breaks my heart when he comes home from school and says that everyone hates him and doesn't have any friends. I know I can help him!!!! Thanks so much for the article. My 6 year old son and I are new to the world of Aspergers. I always new something just wasn’t right, but couldn’t put my finger on what it was, or even how to address it. This has been like an awakening that gives me great hope for helping my son. I breaks my heart when he comes home from school and says that everyone hates him and doesn’t have any friends. I know I can help him!!!! Thanks so much for the article.

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6411 Leafa Wilson Thu, 05 Mar 2009 22:56:52 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6411 Kia ora all My 13 year old son is totally oblivious when he is rant mode. The difficulties we face as a family come directly from his inability to read that he is about to get pommelled by his five other siblings who can't get a word in. Thankyou for the title that I can give this behaviour to. It is an understatement to say that the situations that his 'mindblindness' causes is abolutely crazy-making! He has recently become obsessed with goings on of Peter Popoff and tele-evangelist who has tons of gimmickry. My son sent away for his stuff and now he goes around the house 24/7 quoting and ranting. Not because he agrees with it, rather he is totally on to the fact that it is mostly a sham. Never-the-less it is one of the many obsessions or manifestations of mindblindness that drives us to distraction. I have recently found the only way to pacify him is by asking for a cuddle. He get verbally violent and swears at us. He can't really see that it is disrespectful which causes much resentment and he can't see that it is so disruptive to our family life. I was told by the RTLB that we are going to have ride this wave while he goes through puberty. EEk Cheers to all you parents of Aspies ! We rock ! Kia ora all
My 13 year old son is totally oblivious when he is rant mode. The difficulties we face as a family come directly from his inability to read that he is about to get pommelled by his five other siblings who can’t get a word in. Thankyou for the title that I can give this behaviour to. It is an understatement to say that the situations that his ‘mindblindness’ causes is abolutely crazy-making! He has recently become obsessed with goings on of Peter Popoff and tele-evangelist who has tons of gimmickry. My son sent away for his stuff and now he goes around the house 24/7 quoting and ranting. Not because he agrees with it, rather he is totally on to the fact that it is mostly a sham. Never-the-less it is one of the many obsessions or manifestations of mindblindness that drives us to distraction. I have recently found the only way to pacify him is by asking for a cuddle. He get verbally violent and swears at us. He can’t really see that it is disrespectful which causes much resentment and he can’t see that it is so disruptive to our family life. I was told by the RTLB that we are going to have ride this wave while he goes through puberty. EEk
Cheers to all you parents of Aspies !
We rock !

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6387 Elaine Norkett Thu, 05 Mar 2009 13:08:31 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6387 My 12 year old Asperger's son certainly has "mindblindness" but when he cannot see another person's point of view he turns very nasty using verbal abuse even though he has admitted in the past that he doesn't mean these things when he's saying them so is the verbal abuse a bad habit or just his way of coping with the situation or both? comments please?? My 12 year old Asperger’s son certainly has “mindblindness” but when he cannot see another person’s point of view he turns very nasty using verbal abuse even though he has admitted in the past that he doesn’t mean these things when he’s saying them so is the verbal abuse a bad habit or just his way of coping with the situation or both? comments please??

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6371 Clarice Kloezeman Thornton Thu, 05 Mar 2009 01:09:04 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6371 Thank you Vicky for your comments. My 17 year old Aspie has always seemed OVERLY sensitive to the emotions of others, especially me, her mother. She seems to "catch" my anxiety, depression, or fear very easily, but not so much the positive emotions. Can you explain a little more, maybe with examples, how you perceive the emotions of others? For example, when we are with her counsellor, and she is talking about one of her siblings, she can logically explain what they must be feeling, usually fairly accurately, for example, today she was able to tell her therapist how anxious her brother is about school, and how he needs to come in for counseling too. On the other hand, if we are talking about her peers,and I am trying to explain a possible reason for their behaviour, she will vehemently protest saying "oh no, it's not like that at all" even when it's patently obvious to everyone else. She's all about inconsistency... some days she is driven to tears over the injustice of suffering brought about by poverty, the next day she is coldly saying that a young gang member murdered in the city deserved to die even after I explain that perhaps he turned to a gang to replace absent family supports. It's the same with animals ( they are her obsession ) - she can drive people crazy with her non-stop talk about the wonders of the animal world, how superior it is, how delicate and necessary and in need of protection. Then she'll refuse to feed her pets or clean their environments. She'll cry with frustration over her peers who appear not to care about animals, then seriously consider bringing a goat to school as a prank. When I point out it might be cruel to the animal, she tells me to lighten up - it'd be fun. Comments??? Clarice in Toronto Thank you Vicky for your comments. My 17 year old Aspie has always seemed OVERLY sensitive to the emotions of others, especially me, her mother. She seems to “catch” my anxiety, depression, or fear very easily, but not so much the positive emotions. Can you explain a little more, maybe with examples, how you perceive the emotions of others? For example, when we are with her counsellor, and she is talking about one of her siblings, she can logically explain what they must be feeling, usually fairly accurately, for example, today she was able to tell her therapist how anxious her brother is about school, and how he needs to come in for counseling too. On the other hand, if we are talking about her peers,and I am trying to explain a possible reason for their behaviour, she will vehemently protest saying “oh no, it’s not like that at all” even when it’s patently obvious to everyone else. She’s all about inconsistency… some days she is driven to tears over the injustice of suffering brought about by poverty, the next day she is coldly saying that a young gang member murdered in the city deserved to die even after I explain that perhaps he turned to a gang to replace absent family supports. It’s the same with animals ( they are her obsession ) – she can drive people crazy with her non-stop talk about the wonders of the animal world, how superior it is, how delicate and necessary and in need of protection. Then she’ll refuse to feed her pets or clean their environments. She’ll cry with frustration over her peers who appear not to care about animals, then seriously consider bringing a goat to school as a prank. When I point out it might be cruel to the animal, she tells me to lighten up – it’d be fun. Comments???
Clarice in Toronto

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6362 Dana Hein Wed, 04 Mar 2009 20:07:30 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6362 Thank you so much for posting this. I myself have been thinking of how to explain these ideas to my 5 year old aspie daughter. Although she is too young to understand the way these concepts are worded, and some ideas will have to wait until she is old enough to comprehend them, it gives me some good basic ideas. I will be looking into acquiring the book very soon. Keep on keeping on! Thank you so much for posting this. I myself have been thinking of how to explain these ideas to my 5 year old aspie daughter. Although she is too young to understand the way these concepts are worded, and some ideas will have to wait until she is old enough to comprehend them, it gives me some good basic ideas. I will be looking into acquiring the book very soon. Keep on keeping on!

]]> Mind Blindness and Aspergers Syndrome http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/mind-blindness-and-aspergers-syndrome/comment-page-1#comment-6357 Sara Galvin Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:44:15 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=325#comment-6357 Thanks Vicki! I have a hard time convincing my son's teachers that he really does empathize, if he looks up from what ever it is that is consuming his time long enough to see that someone is upset. He does not know what to do, so he will go to the teacher and annoy her until she does something for the upset person or, as on the bus, he will argue until the other child gets sick of him and then a fight breaks out. Everyone agrees that he is not an aggressive child, but he will not back down, no matter what. THis mind blindness info will help a great deal. I will discuss it with him today!! Sara Thanks Vicki! I have a hard time convincing my son’s teachers that he really does empathize, if he looks up from what ever it is that is consuming his time long enough to see that someone is upset. He does not know what to do, so he will go to the teacher and annoy her until she does something for the upset person or, as on the bus, he will argue until the other child gets sick of him and then a fight breaks out. Everyone agrees that he is not an aggressive child, but he will not back down, no matter what. THis mind blindness info will help a great deal. I will discuss it with him today!!

Sara

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