My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games Aspergers Syndrome-Aspergers-Aspergers Disease-Aspergers Disorder-Autism Aspergers-ASD-Asperger Syndrome-Asperger-Asbergers-Asbergers Syndrome-Asberger Syndrome-Asberger-Autistic-Autistic Children-Autism Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:58:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-12262 lesley Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:56:04 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-12262 i need urgent help, my son is almost 16, and no one is willing to help me ?? because of his age and because he will not talk to anyone, ihave a social worker and cams have been in contact. but because he wopnt sit down and talk to them, they cant offer me any surrport, he does not go to school, he has not been since the start of year 10, its been 18 months now . all he wants to do is play computer games all day. he says that nothing is wrong , but school cannot help him anymore as he only wants to work in animal welfare, but i feel despair as the life he has at the moment is not normal?????????? i need urgent help, my son is almost 16, and no one is willing to help me ?? because of his age and because he will not talk to anyone, ihave a social worker and cams have been in contact. but because he wopnt sit down and talk to them, they cant offer me any surrport, he does not go to school, he has not been since the start of year 10, its been 18 months now . all he wants to do is play computer games all day. he says that nothing is wrong , but school cannot help him anymore as he only wants to work in animal welfare, but i feel despair as the life he has at the moment is not normal??????????

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-9604 Ronnie from Riverside Wed, 12 Aug 2009 03:04:35 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-9604 My son is 11 and has only one interest, playing his DS or video games every spare minute he has. Like so many with Aspergers, he has no friends. It seems like everytime I find a child that he communicates with well, and a friendship is formed, they move to another state. He never shows anger just sadness over his social difficulities. Is there any group any one knows of that might meet in the Inland Empire (around Riverside, Redlands, Temecula, CA) that might get aspies together to make friends? I've heard of some support groups for Asperger parents, and Asperger adults. How about one for the kids? One other boy we connected with that had Aspegers immediately related to my son. Any info, out there would be greatly appreciated. He is so lonely..... My son is 11 and has only one interest, playing his DS or video games every spare minute he has. Like so many with Aspergers, he has no friends. It seems like everytime I find a child that he communicates with well, and a friendship is formed, they move to another state. He never shows anger just sadness over his social difficulities. Is there any group any one knows of that might meet in the Inland Empire (around Riverside, Redlands, Temecula, CA) that might get aspies together to make friends? I’ve heard of some support groups for Asperger parents, and Asperger adults. How about one for the kids? One other boy we connected with that had Aspegers immediately related to my son. Any info, out there would be greatly appreciated. He is so lonely…..

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-9060 Pam from Canada Fri, 12 Jun 2009 19:14:06 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-9060 I saw that you needed people to let you know when school ends and starts in other countries. In Canada, the school year ends on June 26 and the first day of school will be September 1st. I am looking forward to reading your summer tips for kids on the Autism Spectrum. We have a 10 year old son with Aspergers. He's doing pretty well, but we're always open to new ideas. I saw that you needed people to let you know when school ends and starts in other countries. In Canada, the school year ends on June 26 and the first day of school will be September 1st.

I am looking forward to reading your summer tips for kids on the Autism Spectrum. We have a 10 year old son with Aspergers. He’s doing pretty well, but we’re always open to new ideas.

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8979 irene Thu, 11 Jun 2009 12:02:39 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8979 Someone else posted this, but I am also glad to have found this forum and read these posts. It does feel sometimes that we're the only ones that are dealing with things like this. My son is 14 and we tried the public school and a private Christian Academy, but neither were right fits for him. We live in Minnesota so we were able to get him into a charter school geared towards math and science. This was much better, but as he got older it just wasn't working anymore. I was meeting with the school administration and teachers all of the time. I told them to call my cell in emergencies and the home phone for the rest of the time because the number of calls that I was getting was ridiculous and the things that I was getting the calls for was typical Aspie behaviour. I told them that they needed to learn to deal with this behaviour, that's why they get more funds for special needs. Anyway, we found a new charter school in MN that is just for Aspie's and high functioning Autism children. He will start that next year. I'm not sure what your states have to offer, but MN has charter schools that are on-line and then the kids go on campus 2 or 3 times per week. I believe they have ones that are totally on-line now. There are also private schools that are geared toward LD children - though the tuition is outrageous, the one that we were thinking about has an attorney that can help with public schools not being able to teach these children and having these funds put towards the tuition. Another idea is that we went on-line (I think it's yahoo groups) and found two groups within our area that were for Aspie parents and kids to get together and do things together. Finding friends like him (they all link in their video game consoles and have a great time) and going to movies and restaurants with the kids and parents increased his confidence greatly - Best of luck!!! Someone else posted this, but I am also glad to have found this forum and read these posts. It does feel sometimes that we’re the only ones that are dealing with things like this. My son is 14 and we tried the public school and a private Christian Academy, but neither were right fits for him. We live in Minnesota so we were able to get him into a charter school geared towards math and science. This was much better, but as he got older it just wasn’t working anymore. I was meeting with the school administration and teachers all of the time. I told them to call my cell in emergencies and the home phone for the rest of the time because the number of calls that I was getting was ridiculous and the things that I was getting the calls for was typical Aspie behaviour. I told them that they needed to learn to deal with this behaviour, that’s why they get more funds for special needs. Anyway, we found a new charter school in MN that is just for Aspie’s and high functioning Autism children. He will start that next year. I’m not sure what your states have to offer, but MN has charter schools that are on-line and then the kids go on campus 2 or 3 times per week. I believe they have ones that are totally on-line now. There are also private schools that are geared toward LD children – though the tuition is outrageous, the one that we were thinking about has an attorney that can help with public schools not being able to teach these children and having these funds put towards the tuition. Another idea is that we went on-line (I think it’s yahoo groups) and found two groups within our area that were for Aspie parents and kids to get together and do things together. Finding friends like him (they all link in their video game consoles and have a great time) and going to movies and restaurants with the kids and parents increased his confidence greatly – Best of luck!!!

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8939 wendy Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:01:56 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8939 My 10 year old son just finished the 3rd grade today. This was a very stressful and unhappy school year, topped off with end-of-grade testing. Next year, the classes will only have a part-time, shared aide. I am pulling him out to homeschool- most of the teachers agree that it will be the best way for him to learn, and we can offer so many more opportunities. The problem is that he now insists that he needs to go to school with the other kids and be like them. These are the kids who have ostracized him and/or just ignored him. I can't make him see that he didn't have any friends, and I wouldn't do that to him. This is going to be a very tough beginning, as his younger NT brother is still in public school. Hopefully, it will all work out... My 10 year old son just finished the 3rd grade today. This was a very stressful and unhappy school year, topped off with end-of-grade testing. Next year, the classes will only have a part-time, shared aide. I am pulling him out to homeschool- most of the teachers agree that it will be the best way for him to learn, and we can offer so many more opportunities. The problem is that he now insists that he needs to go to school with the other kids and be like them. These are the kids who have ostracized him and/or just ignored him. I can’t make him see that he didn’t have any friends, and I wouldn’t do that to him. This is going to be a very tough beginning, as his younger NT brother is still in public school. Hopefully, it will all work out…

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8910 Anita Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:48:19 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8910 My son is 14 years old and he failed 8th grade. I tried everything to help him in school and spent more time on the phone with the school than any person should ever have to spend. Four to five times a day I was being called and my son began to refuse working in every single one of his classes. I finally was forced to pull him from school and am going to home school him but work something with the school district to allow him to be in athletics. He loves to do his work home schooling and he has finally quit playing video games completely. I actually had to start him back in the 2nd grade as he has been passed by his teachers without teaching him. We adopted him last August. He likes playing other board games like Monopoly and that teaches him finances as I let him be banker. Just try to find interests that are productive and let him go for it and nurture those. My son has had a history of teachers who do not know how to deal with Aspies and this school was no different. His behavior is so much better now since we pulled him from school and started teaching him at home. My son is 14 years old and he failed 8th grade. I tried everything to help him in school and spent more time on the phone with the school than any person should ever have to spend. Four to five times a day I was being called and my son began to refuse working in every single one of his classes. I finally was forced to pull him from school and am going to home school him but work something with the school district to allow him to be in athletics. He loves to do his work home schooling and he has finally quit playing video games completely. I actually had to start him back in the 2nd grade as he has been passed by his teachers without teaching him. We adopted him last August. He likes playing other board games like Monopoly and that teaches him finances as I let him be banker. Just try to find interests that are productive and let him go for it and nurture those. My son has had a history of teachers who do not know how to deal with Aspies and this school was no different. His behavior is so much better now since we pulled him from school and started teaching him at home.

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8439 karen Thu, 28 May 2009 21:27:15 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8439 My son has just turned eight and is primary 3 ever since he started schoold he has hated it talks about wanting to blow it and all the teachers up. still trying to get him diagnosed why is it such a long process I reall feel for him. He says he hates himself and I feel at a loss on what to do. His teachers have no idea and keep him in a playtime as he is one of the children who cannot handle the playgroun! That is a great help!. My son has just turned eight and is primary 3 ever since he started schoold he has hated it talks about wanting to blow it and all the teachers up. still trying to get him diagnosed why is it such a long process I reall feel for him. He says he hates himself and I feel at a loss on what to do. His teachers have no idea and keep him in a playtime as he is one of the children who cannot handle the playgroun! That is a great help!.

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8203 sarah Fri, 08 May 2009 08:53:08 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8203 reading all the comments can i ask a question.my son starts school in september do all aspis hate school. my son doesn't like pre schools he says it is boring and no one likes him ,this is heart breaking reading all the comments can i ask a question.my son starts school in september do all aspis hate school. my son doesn’t like pre schools he says it is boring and no one likes him ,this is heart breaking

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8141 Michele Wed, 29 Apr 2009 23:54:19 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8141 I love reading the comments- it makes me realize my family is not alone. We only recently received my 14 yr old son's diagnosis (aspergers) but researching has made me feel I (or someone) should have seen the signs much earlier. At times I am simply overwhelmed and can hardly deal with him. He is bigger than me so physically removing him from the computer/tv is not even possible and he has a meltdown many times when I tell him it is time to turn off the computer/tv. I met with his school to request a 504 or an IEP. The lead actually held up her hands and said (holding hand high) "this is his IQ (130) and his grades (holding up other hand to be equal) are here - there is no where for us to go". I really wanted to scream - I am primarly looking for assistance for him socially/emotionally. However he will begin high school (honors courses) in the fall and I do not want his grades to suffer when he falls behind or can't finish a test in the alloted time (this already happens but he is still able to maintain A's because the work he does compelte is always right). His younger (11 yr old) does not understnad why he is so aggressive/angry at times. I feel bad for him - she has frinds and goes places but he does not have that. It try to do things with him when she is with her friends but I know it is not the same. Suggestions... for anything. I love reading the comments- it makes me realize my family is not alone. We only recently received my 14 yr old son’s diagnosis (aspergers) but researching has made me feel I (or someone) should have seen the signs much earlier. At times I am simply overwhelmed and can hardly deal with him. He is bigger than me so physically removing him from the computer/tv is not even possible and he has a meltdown many times when I tell him it is time to turn off the computer/tv.
I met with his school to request a 504 or an IEP. The lead actually held up her hands and said (holding hand high) “this is his IQ (130) and his grades (holding up other hand to be equal) are here – there is no where for us to go”. I really wanted to scream – I am primarly looking for assistance for him socially/emotionally. However he will begin high school (honors courses) in the fall and I do not want his grades to suffer when he falls behind or can’t finish a test in the alloted time (this already happens but he is still able to maintain A’s because the work he does compelte is always right).
His younger (11 yr old) does not understnad why he is so aggressive/angry at times. I feel bad for him – she has frinds and goes places but he does not have that. It try to do things with him when she is with her friends but I know it is not the same. Suggestions… for anything.

]]> My son with Aspergers doesn't want to go school and just wants to play computer games http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/my-son-doesnt-want-to-go-school-and-just-wants-to-play-computer-games/comment-page-1#comment-8070 pamela azar Sat, 25 Apr 2009 01:13:32 +0000 http://parentingaspergers.com/blog/?p=396#comment-8070 I have a son that is 11. I have been fighting the school for years, Please, if yiu gave a non-violent Aspie, do not allow them (te school) to put them in a disruptice classroom or with bullies. Our chilfren are special and all have talents. we need to help them find what it is. The majority of teachers and administrations in regular ed. schools do the minimum for our children. I am now battling my school system. Sadly, I am a teacher in the same school. T am being shunned by my peers now and they have a law firm fighing against me. I will not let them destroy him. I jave more to say but I qill stop now. Det layers and or child advocates. Please listen to your chilfren. Shadow them for the day....Gof Blrss you all and please my son is foing what your dids are doing 'IE' video games.....Again, please listen to your chilfren......unless you have someone in the school you can trust with your child. I have many legal bills, but I will not lose my son or let them hurt him emoyiomally amymore. Wish me well . I think we have much in common. Goodnight I have a son that is 11. I have been fighting the school for years, Please, if yiu gave a non-violent Aspie, do not allow them (te school) to put them in a disruptice classroom or with bullies. Our chilfren are special and all have talents. we need to help them find what it is. The majority of teachers and administrations in regular ed. schools do the minimum for our children. I am now battling my school system. Sadly, I am a teacher in the same school. T am being shunned by my peers now and they have a law firm fighing against me. I will not let them destroy him. I jave more to say but I qill stop now. Det layers and or child advocates. Please listen to your chilfren. Shadow them for the day….Gof Blrss you all and please my son is foing what your dids are doing ‘IE’ video games…..Again, please listen to your chilfren……unless you have someone in the school you can trust with your child. I have many legal bills, but I will not lose my son or let them hurt him emoyiomally amymore. Wish me well . I think we have much in common. Goodnight

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