Parenting Autism & Aspergers Newsletter June Edition

Leanne — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 12:32:56 +0000

I am finding it diffecult to find a law whom has an understanding and whom is capable of been able to comunicate with my 18yr old aspie son, he`s been asulted via 3 bouncers but is been charged with drink and disorderly and disorderly conduct on a licence premisses, my son has made no comment but has told me that he was attacted, I have scanned the net but so far with out results to guide him HELP!!!!!

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Shannon Mulder — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 02:25:14 +0000

Thank you Ciera. I plan to try your trick with my son tomorrow. He is stuck on “I can’t” and I think your suggestion may help.

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Ciera — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 17:03:04 +0000

I’ve had AS for 45 years. I learned many coping methods to move beyond this encapsulated existence. I’m far from comfortable but I would like to offer one tip today for parents of AS or HFA, in which your child may become “stuck”. My daughter struggles sevewrely as soon as she says “I can’t” Since she is not NEEDING help with the task, ie., putting on shoes,taking a bath, dressing etc……,I taught her to count how many steps it would take to do the task. Counting out loud is better to keep the focus. I made a game out of: How many steps does it take to take off and put on clean clothes. One arm in counted as a one movement, other arm (2), head (3), pulling down front of shirt (4), if also pulling down back in a separate step (go ahead for a (5), and so forth. She was pleased to learn that undressing took way less steps than putting on clothes. Meanwhile, task gotcompleted and I promptly informed her of how proud I was she got through it. As one gets older it can be a less audible game when a person feels “stuck” and unable to do various things. More complicated things are best planned out on paper, if it is a teenager.
I hope this helped somebody out there.
Best wishes for you and yours, Ciera in Keene, NH. USA.

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kim — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 01:40:58 +0000

Ronda, my husband still wants to believe that this is not real or at least that he(our son) can control all these issues with learning and behavior…etc. I’m not sure why that some parents want not to be on board with the diagnoses completly…..still….I keep on doing the best I can with our son because I KNOW that this is real and fight with the school for everything he gets. Also, my thought is that when it is Aspergers that some (like my son) seems so “normal” (I hate that word!) that it makes it more difficult to swallow. However if they were blind or deaf….others would not argue the case of the diasability being true or false! Right?
Kim

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Michele — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:56:57 +0000

Thank you for the wonderful advise and tips. My son is eight and we have been learning about Aspergers since he was in pre-school. He has fine motor skill deficiencies and loses interest easily. He has not officially been diagnosed with anything, but we have him seeing a O.T. now, and a P.T. in the past. We are his advocate at his school where he is on the I.E.P. program for special education. I believe knowledge is power and I’m thankful to all who write in with their stories. Thank you

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Ronda Whitford — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:43:58 +0000

I printed this article to show my husband. I’ve had a hard time talking to him about the new AS diagnosis (he’s very negative about labels being put on our son). Hubby likes John Scheider, so I thought it may be a good “bridge” for conversation. Wish me luck! and thanks again for this great resource…

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Barry — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 13:18:41 +0000

I agree it is a gift its just a shame others dont see it the same way. My Daughter suffers at the hands of a small minded town with a small minded attitude, all because she can complete what others can not.

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Kimberly — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 02:33:35 +0000

Every time I tell one on my son’s teachers he has Asperger’s, I tell them “he has been given the gift Asperger’s”. My son then lists all the famous people that is believed to have or had Asperger’s. Instead of starting off focusing on the bad, the teacher sees the good first. It was sure nice to see John Scnieder feels the same way.