Comments on: Sex and the Aspie Teen…

By: Val McLean

Val McLean — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 14:21:00 +0000

This is in response to Randi Renninger’s comment: our son as well was bullied at school…we pulled him out for the latter half of grade 7 and homeschooled him in conjunction with the school. Then in grade 8 he went to a Christian school (small) and there was next to no bullying (problem with only one boy and that was immediately stopped when I talked with the principal)…went on to public high school where bullying again started; I immediately went to his Resouce teacher and basically demanded something be done. The school was very accommodating…they gave him final exams in Math and English (gr 10)and did other assessments with him at which he scored very high. He was then placed in Grade 11 where the bullying was decreased to almost nil because the kids are more mature at that age…they actually wanted to look out for him in some cases. He graduated a year and half early. You definitely need to be an advocate for your child. All the best.

By: Barry

Barry — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 10:40:41 +0000

I was a bit late in reading this blog but I have a 15 yr old girl and sex is a funny issue with her. She is fully aware of sex and sexual relations but she is very reserved when disscussions are being held in a family group. (she is one of 3 girls and is the one in the middle)My fear with her is she is easyly lead and even though she recons she will remain a virgin till 25 I am concerned as how she will deal with pressure if court in a situation. Although we make sure that condoms are readly avaliable and safe sex is constanly enforced there is still fear with an aspie child.

By: randi renninger

randi renninger — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 16:47:01 +0000

thank you for your blog!My son gets bullied alot at school and on the bus. The adults at the school say they tell the kids to stop bullying, but it doesn’t help. What should my son do? What should I do?

By: I woul;d llike to know how to potty train artistic children. my son is 4 yearss old and still wets his pants and bowll movements - Thank you Trish

Sat, 12 Jul 2008 03:34:19 +0000

You have good information

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 22:00:22 +0000

Asperger’s comes in many forms, as everyone well knows who reads these posts, but I wonder how many parents have, like me, made the mistake of encouraging the Aspie teen to “make friends” online. This has had disastrous results in the case of my articulate, highly intelligent son, whose friends in the real world are marginal characters (for a variety of reasons). He is constantly either text-messaging or spending 8-12 hours/day on the internet, playing games, participating in chat rooms (some of which are at least intellectually challenging with topics related to philosophy, politics, and worldwide concerns), and carrying on with female “friends” in highly sexualized, temporary relationships made possible by things like web cameras. He is seeing a therapist now after having blown his first year in a very good college, but is so far unable to talk about the root problem that is fueling his need for these 2-dimensional relationships. Let this serve as a cautionary note to parents of teens with Aspergers and other forms of social & communication problems. The internet can be a place to work through problems and inform ones self — it can also be a place to hide and remove ones self from the necessary struggles in real life relationships.

By: Jane

Jane — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:57:18 +0000

As a mum of two aspie boys 15 and 17 there is a lot in this topic. Like everything else social my boys are hampered by their anxiety and self confidence and identity issues. Sex comes up in a lot of ways but getting and keeping a soulmate is not on the agenda. Stay optimistic and let things happen as naturally as possible. I’m aware that rejection in love/sex will provoke deep depression and withdrawl. So what! So did school but we still gave it a go! And recovered! Normal but different.

By: nicki

nicki — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 18:38:23 +0000

Why is everyone intent on treating children with asperger’s differently to any other child? My eldest son has asperger’s and ADHD and he is treated with the same authority, rules, consideration and respect as my other 2 children. Things are explained to him in the same way as they are to his siblings, the only difference is he asks more questions to make sure he understood what has been said. He is not different he is special but he still has the same feelings, emotions and curiosities as everyone else.

By: Lori Caron

Lori Caron — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:35:12 +0000

Although my Aspie son hasn’t hit puberty yet, my instincts tell me that their curiosity is no different then any other child hitting puberty. As mentioned above, they are smarter and exposed to more then we ever were so the key is to be honest and give information based at the level “they” understand. (i.e. When two adult people are in love they hug and kiss. Sometimes they have special moments together…..(not sure what is acceptable to say on this blog so I will let you fill in the rest of the blanks)

By: RONNIE

RONNIE — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 14:04:50 +0000

You may be suprized at just how much aspie kids will know. Over the weekend while camping my 13 yr old boy was frog hunting. when he came back with his group of frogs 2 were hooked up. He proceded to give the whole group sitting around him a lesson in frog sex ed.

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 01:32:19 +0000

I take it this is a 2-part answer and that sexuality will be dealt with next? As for the explanation of Asperger’s for adolescents, I think the content is fine, but the sentences are way too long. Most Aspies will have tuned out by the fourth word of each sentence. I’d advise that if you’re using this approach, break up the sentences into 5-8 word units.