The March Edition of The Parenting Autism & Aspergers Newsletter

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PARENTING AUTISM & ASPERGERS NEWSLETTER
VOLUME 17
MARCH 2008

This is Dave Angel and Welcome to the seventeenth edition
of “The Parenting Autism & Aspergers Newsletter”…..

Inside this edition you will find:

1. More problems with the Blog………

2. Hot Topic of Discussion - Aspergers and Employment Prospects

3. In the News – A Story of Hope…

4. Parenting Tips - High Functioning Autism

5. Famous Autistic Person - Tim Page

Best Wishes

Dave Angel

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1. More problems with the Blog………

Hello and welcome from a very chilly England - surely warm
weather and pretty spring flowers should be showing by now?!

This week the blog completely disappeared into cyber-space on
2 occasions…

Goodness knows why but the incredibly helpful techy people at
my web hosting company seem to have solved it.

Well at least they did sort it out and didn’t give me the
standard

“have you tried turning it off and turning it back
on?”

advice that seems to be the first lesson that every good
IT technician that I come across at work seems to have learnt
at IT School!

But I’m thankful for small mercies!

Apparently it was “some connectivity problem with the mysql
database”…and if you understand that at all it makes you a
far superior human being to me!

Anyway fingers crossed it continues to be OK and again
apologies for any disruption.

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2. Hot Topic of Discussion - Aspergers and Employment Prospects

I stumbled across another blog about Aspergers recently which
said that unemployment for people with Aspergers was as high as
85%…which seems way too high in my opinion.

Gavin, the owner of the blog then carried out his own “quick and
dirty” survey which found the figure in his group to be around
11%…but my guess is that’s probably a bit low.

My estimate would be around 20% - although to be honest as we
all know there are “lies, damn lies and statistics!”

News flash - Having had a little surf further around the net the
statistics are actually quite staggering certainly in the UK…

A number of sites quote the unemployment rate for people with
Aspergers as 88% - and this statistic seems to originate from
the highly-respected and knowledgable National Autism Society.

Scary stuff indeed…

But what can you as parents do to stop this becoming a reality
for your child?

Well pretty much what you are doing already…judging by many
of the excellent emails that I get in from so many of you.

In conjunction with school it is so essential to get your child’s
social skills, interactional skills etc. as up to speed as is
humanly possible.

When the time gets closer for your child to be thinking of work,
then as parents you need to be really proactive in bringing this
topic to your child and helping them to look for opportunities.

Plan out what your child would like to do and what looks
achievable for your child - bearing in mind their own particular
issues with regard to sensory stimulation, crowding, understanding
social situations.

Each child is different and so there is no catch-all solution.

But involve your child in decisions all along the way - don’t do
it for them.

Then it may well mean contacting local businesses and working
closely with the school and careers service in identifying a
suitable employer who will have a sensitivity to your child’s needs.

An honest and straight forward explanation of Aspergers and what it
means can help a great deal of employers who are happy to give
people a chance - but are maybe wary or scared of the label
Aspergers, simply because they don’t understand it.

Then it’s up to your child (often with support at first) to be
able to convince the employer that they can do the job.

One tactic may be to ask for a 2/4 week unpaid trial in which your
child can be given support to learn the ropes and then impress
the boss sufficiently to get a permanent job.

There is a web page at NAS that would be helpful for you to mention
to a potential employer (or even print off the details and actually
take to show them):

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=444

If you wish to read more of Gavin’s Aspergers blog go to:

http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2008/03/how-does-aspergers-affect-employment.html

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3. In the News – A Story of Hope…

This month’s news item comes from Somersworth, New Hampshire
in the USA.

It features a young autistic boy called Ryan and attests to the power
of therapeutic interventions and parental determination for children
with an ASD.

Ryan has an hour per week Speech & Occupational Therapy program
after school (and before anyone shouts out - I know they are
very lucky and certainly many areas don’t offer this, but
don’t shoot the messenger please!)

This has led to him being able to ask questions and converse
with schoolmates for the first time ever.

In the past Ryan could not tolerate the car radio or the
sound of a microwave but last Christmas he was able to ask
for his own present and listen to Christmas music.

But these great results have come from a huge amount of
trial and error work from his parents who likened it to
the famous light bulb inventor Thomas Edison:

“Edison used to say he found 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb
before he discovered the right way” Dione (Ryan’s mum) said.

Eventually these efforts were rewarded by finding a variety of
approaches, including the speech and occupational therapy, that
really help.

A nice quote in the article came from his father Frank who said:

“It gives me hope for a better tomorrow”.

And as I’m sure you know hope is such an essential ingredient in
any parent’s make up who wants to help their child with ASD.

So take a little hope and inspiration from this story and if you
want to read more on Ryan go to:

http://www.fosters.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080309/GJNEWS_01/833802553
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4. Parenting Tips - High Functioning Autism

This month’s tip comes from Kathleen (in Florida) so thanks
Kathleen…….and here’s the tip…..

“I am homeschooling a six year old grandson with high-functioning
autism.

I am finding Michelle Garcia Winner’s work on social cognition
to be very insightful and helpful.

The higher-IQ children like my grandson respond best to a
cognitive approach, direct instruction on things that are
intuitive to most people but not to them, rather than a
behavioral one.

One of her suggestions is to teach children directly to keep
“memory files” on each acquaintance so that they can converse
with him or her on subjects of interest to the friend or of
mutual interest (rather than the child’s own obsession).

However–my grandson has faceblindness (prosopagnosia).

He can tell emotions very well, but he has pretty severe
trouble identifying individuals.

Somehow he needs to learn to compensate for this socially.

It’s supposed to be something neurological that cannot be
changed, but there must be a better way to compensate than
doing what he did yesterday: walking up to a new “friend”
whom you have played with several times and do remember what
you did, looking him straight in the face, and saying “ARE
YOU JOHN?”

And how can you develop memory files when you can’t tell
the kids apart?

How can I help a child with social cognitive deficits and
faceblindness (and auditory sensitivities) make friends?

Kathleen in Florida”

If anyone can help answer Kathleen’s own questions above
can you go over to the blog and post your answers and ideas
there.

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5. Famous Autistic Person - Tim Page

Tim Page is a Pulizer-Prize winning music journalist who is
diagnosed with Aspergers.

At school he recalls that teachers obviously saw him as
intelligent (in facts labelled him as a “genius”) yet he
struggled to succeed and get grades.

His intense interest areas were music, silent films and large
chunks of the 1961 Worldbook Encyclopedia.

And he immersed himself in learning all he could on these
topics.

But socially he struggled a great deal at school and says that:

“It’s been kind of a lonely life and remains a lonely life. You
get the sense that you don’t have the connections with people
you’d like to have.”

Which is a terribly sad but not eaxctly new experience for a
child/adult with Aspergers.

But on the flip side Tim goes on to say that:

“On the other hand, it seems to me that a lot of things I did
and am doing in my life happened because I had Asperger’s.”

He is an authority speaker in music and lectures at
universities in the USA, and has been a celebrated music
journalist for the Washington Post and New York Times.

Currently he is a visiting professor with the Annenberg School
of Journalism at the University of Southern California.

So clearly al of that obsessional interest in music at an early
age has shaped his future destiny.

Giving him a career and life experiences that many people with
or without ASD would be overjoyed to have had.

He is due to release a book on his life with Aspergers next
year which I would imagine will be a fascinating read.

To read more on Tim go to:

http://www.columbiamissourian.com/stories/2008/03/13/music-critic-describes-life-wth-aspergers-syndrome/
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Well that’s all for this edition and I hope you
enjoyed it.

The next edition of the newsletter should be due in
mid-April.

And as ever………please send in any inspirational stories
that you know of, any questions that you would like our team
of experts to answer, any topics that you wish to be discussed
and news stories that you want to share.

We will publish as many as we can.

Until next month………

Best Wishes

Dave Angel

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8 comments »

  1. I have a grandson with Aspergers–has anyone out there tried the NACD for Aspergers–they have a web site?

    Comment by Jane Tilton — March 21, 2008 @ 10:06 pm

  2. Thanks so much for your continued dedication to bring information and inspiration to your readers! I am a former Special Ed teacher and principal and I recommend you newsletter to the Education students I work with at a local college. My twelve year old grandson has Aspergers and we have found the info very helpful! Thanks jude

    Comment by jude gemmen — March 22, 2008 @ 9:33 am

  3. This post is for Kathleen. I not only have a child with asperger’s but I have another child who is his twin that is legally blind. I thought I might give you an idea from what I use with him when he meets repeat friends or therapists so he can associate. I always have his friends or therapists use something that they always have with them to identify themselves. Such as one of his therapists uses her wedding ring. She takes his hand and places his fingers on her ring before she even says hello so that he knows who is going to be speaking to him. His friends try to have some unique toy with them when they talk to him. He has a very high startle reflex being that he can’t see who is coming at him. He doesn’t have the same thing as your grandson but he has something called bilateral optic atrophy. I hope this idea might give you some help or at least point in a direction that will help. Maybe because he can communicate better than my son maybe they could each have a special phrase or song to identify themselves to him. Good luck

    Comment by Michelle Eldred — March 22, 2008 @ 6:57 pm

  4. Re: Aspergers and Employment. My daughter was diagnosed “late” at age 14. There was so much I did not know then. In Lake County Florida we have an inter-agency council that once a year does what they call Transition fair. Many agencies come together and give workshops on what to do to prepare our kids for further success in school and for after high school. I have just gotten Holly involved with an agency called Vocational Rehab. This is a wonderful resource. They test her; train her for employment and provide her and the employer with a job coach so that she and they “understand” her many complexities. For Aspergers they even provide lifelong support. If eligible they even pay tuition for further schooling. As most of you know you have to do the research yourself but the help IS out there.

    Comment by Diana Stebbins — March 23, 2008 @ 9:39 am

  5. Thankyou for all the information you send me it is really very helpful. I have 1 grandson with Autism and a grandaughter with Aspergers. And my other grandaughter is comletely normal.They are from the same family.Emma is 7. Thomas is 6 with Autism and Rachel is 3 with Aspergers.Life is very hard for My son and my daughter in law is so inspirational.Thomas was diagnosed when he was 2+. We live in Australia in the eastern suburbs of Melbourne. Tom was placed in an Early Intervention School in Bayswater. It is called Irabeena school for Autism. He was able to access Speech Theraphy,Occupation Theraphy.And Education.My son and his wife were able to get Tom extra Speech and Occupational therapy at home.He only went to Irabeena for 2 hours a week.When he started he had already been a screamer. He was a terrible baby and nearly drove his parents to a time when they just wanted to put a pillow over his face. They were so exhausted and did not know what to do.Maurita quickly learned About Autism and set about doing everything she could to change Tom/s behaviour. Michael my son and Maurita my wonderful daughter in law have a great working partnership together. Tom is now in mainstream school 2 half day/s a week and 3 full day/s at a school for Autism.He does not recieve much education there but they do go on excursions.Tom was toilet trained when he was 3years old before and after he did all those “normal things” like smearing faeces,yelling incoherant word/s and total fixation,lining up chairs,watching the same Wiggle/s video. Today he is still in love with the wiggles.He loves swimming and riding his bike.He can say sentence/s he reconizes family members.He say/s hello to everybody.He has the most beautiful face and laughs really loud if you tickel him.Sometimes I can/t beleive he is not normal.He has come a long way and that is thanks to his Mum and Dad/s determination to teach him every thing they can. They use Visual/s everyday so he know/s what is happening each day.The mainstream school Rolling Hills Primary in Lilydale has a few children with Dissabilities and now use Visuals in every classroom. They also have a no Nut policy for children who have alergies like Tom.The Teacher/s are trained to use Epipens. This information is for anyone in Melbourne who may read this.You have my permission to print any of this material that may be of some use to somebody else.Thank you again for all your help.
    Cheers Maureen Rouse. Mitcham.Melbourne Victoria.Austrealia.

    Comment by Maureen Rouse — March 23, 2008 @ 10:55 pm

  6. Dear Dave,

    I am trying to re-paint my son’s room. He has aspergers, and I thought a nice “field green” and sports theme would be nice. Apparently, “green” is not a good color. What is a calming color for aspy kids?

    Thanks,
    Erin

    Comment by Erin Kotzbauer — March 25, 2008 @ 6:17 pm

  7. My 11 year old daughter has recently been diagnosed with aspergers. She is very bright and is doing very well in school academically-aside from organization and social skills. It is the lack of social skills and emotional skills- having an appropriate emotional reaction to disappointment in particular that I am desperate to address. Does anyone have any suggestions?
    gratefully,
    a mom trying to cope

    Comment by Lara — March 30, 2008 @ 9:21 pm

  8. To Erin, when I moved the room that my grandson would use when he stayed with me was blue. He told me he couldn’t stay there because blue would make him sad. It is not the color it is the change. See if there is a color he would like or maybe instead large sticker of things that interest him.

    Comment by Elberta — April 2, 2008 @ 10:57 am

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